Dear friends at IL, Since I last moved out from my house and my hubby asked me to return, things have improved a lot. Like now, my hubby is more at home with us. He helps me with house work. Takes care of kids if i go out or if i m busy with my cooking or other house work. However emotionally he is still not there. Though most of his gestures show that he cares for us. Now coming to my new problem. I have 2 colleague friends (a man n a woman), the woman friend has turned out to be my best friend and knows my personal problems and is always ready to guide and assist me. This new male friend is a divorcee and has been working in my firm for the last 7 years. We all 3 r good friends and always helping each other. I feel i am different person when i am at work. Let me also tell you his story, which all in my firm know about. 4 years back he had gone to India for his marriage (girl selected by his family) and after a month he returned back. He promised his wife that once she gets her passport done he will bring her to Kuwait. A month later he got news that his wife has disappeared. Neither his family nor hers knew her wherabouts. He took emergency leave and went down to India to search for her. He took help from cops and a week later she was found at her ex-boyfriend's place. The girl was in love with her b/f for 5 years and her parents were aginst him as he was of a different religion, so they forced her into this marriage. Anyway this guy refused to accept her as he felt he was cheated and so also she was not ready to get back with him. So he divorced her. Now the problem is this guy has come to know through my friend about my personal problem and is now interested in me. He shows his affection towards me. I try as much to avoid him as i feel i m risking my marriage. But then on the other hand i feel i am not doing anything bad to feel guilty about. I also notices that when we are together, i am more happier than when i am at home with my hubby. My hubby's cold attitude towards me hurts a lot within. My friend advised that i should inform my hubby about this guy so that he will be aware that there is someone who cares for me and wil ge insecure. And if he really cares for me and fears that he may lose me, he will surely try to be more responsive towards me... I am really not sure. Can you guys advise me something? I dont want to break my marriage and lose my kids. Confused Diana Let me make one thing clear, that I have no emotional feeling towards him and only takes him as a friend. And I only feel that if someone else can show his care for me...why cant my hubby????