‘Silence is Gold', remain silent & by silence you can achieve what you want! This is the mantra taught by my mother who was in the joint family for more than 25years. I follow her footstep. Like any normal in-laws, my in-laws too have spoken/ accused not only my parents, grand parents, great- grand parents...but they have pulled down my whole sect down! However, I remained ' quiet'. I know they were talking non-sense. I don’t want to argue/talk back/prove my self through words but through silence. My silence will torture them; it will take not my peace of mind but theirs. Being an educated person, we should deal the situation through mind & not through emotions or sentiments! Getting respect / self-respect, it is all in one's hand. Well, out of an anger/frustration/depression they will definitely kill their D-L through words...they will wait for our side defends but that it will never happen in my case. When their son is back from his work, they will be awaiting to complain about me. But my husband knows his wife well, he has more trust & confidence in me. As I mentioned earlier, after all they are also human beings. Being old & weak, they feel in secured, suffer from inferiority complex, they are jealous of my well-being & help-less. By remaining silent, I am able to understand their feeling but my silence...is a mystery to them. It is a mask to me, a thin wall protects me, they are unable able penetrate’ what I am thinking with in’. That gives them a fear & nowadays they are double careful while talking with me because I have more inner strength & will power than they do. To conclude, women...when ever a storm arises in our house. I will remember Swami sukbodhanananda’s speech. He had once said that if someone/somebody talks ill about you just close your ears do not take those words, problems will arise if only you take it personally. Well, this is how I deal with my in-laws. Many may not accept & agree with me but it works !