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A grouch is a winner all the time!

Discussion in 'Cheeniya's Senile Ramblings' started by Cheeniya, May 15, 2007.

  1. Cheeniya

    Cheeniya Super Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Kin Hubbard has an astounding capability for stating little known facts of life in terse one-liners with a telling effect. Just listen to this. “A grouch escapes so many little annoyances that it almost pays to be one”

    If you disagree with that one, it would only mean that you are a poor observer of life’s intricacies. How could you have failed to notice the amount of respect that a grouch gets in any function? Take for example a wedding reception of the Madrasi kind. Enters a well known and well documented grouch. Right from that moment and until he leaves finally the attention that he gets from the hosts and the assembled guests is something even a VIP may not get.

    He enters the reception hall escorted by a couple of over-solicitous representatives of the hosts. The hall is packed to capacity with the late comers standing around, like cranes waiting for their prey, eagerly waiting for a seat to fall vacant. Our grouch looks around and before a frown could crease his already well-creased face, half a dozen guests spring to their feet offering their seats to him. He condescends to occupy one of them while the cranes around the hall give him a look of awe and reverence.

    The dinner is announced and the guests scramble to the dining hall leaving the Singer of the evening singing mainly to the senile front-seaters who have given up eating outside for health reasons. One of the hosts comes running to the grouch and offers to take him to the dining hall which is already bursting at the seams. Those who can not scramble fast enough to the dining hall are left stranded outside the grill door eyeing those inside with envy. As the grouch walks in with the representative of the hosts, one of the guests who is probably the distant relative of the bride is made to vacate his seat which the grouch occupies. The representative stands in front of the grouch and makes sure that every item on the menu is served to him while others keep gesticulating wildly for a refill of this or that and mostly go unnoticed. The chief cook is also called and introduced to the grouch.

    After the dinner, the grouch is conducted back to the auditorium and seated under a fan. A few ladies try to strike conversation with him by referring to forgotten family links but soon melt away not being able to elicit any enthusiastic response. The noisy kids keep a safe distance from him heeding to the wise counsel of their parents. He finally leaves escorted courteously until the gate.

    And poor me! I keep grinning all the time in a desperate attempt to convey to everyone that I am the friendliest person in the world after only Dale Carnegie. My facial muscles beg me to give them a little rest but I wont relent. I am engaged in pointless rambling and kept away from dinner. The noisy children attack me with their pranks ceaselessly. When I finally manage to have my dinner, the main items are already consumed and the resourceful cook manages with some hastily cooked rice and dhall. I curse my fate and vow to be a great grouch henceforth!
     
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  2. Lavanya

    Lavanya Bronze IL'ite

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    Ain't it in our nature to try to please the most difficult person that we can find. May be our culture has encouraged those futile efforts even more. Knowing that its a battle in vain we still try our best to please them... may be because we have this inkling of hope that if indeed we succeed we'd satiate our egos by doing something considered impossible!
     
  3. Cheeniya

    Cheeniya Super Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Lavanya
    That's precisely what Kin Hubbard means!
    It's sad that only a difficult person can get our attention in full while the amiable ones are sidelined. That's probably why a person gets to become more and more a grouch as he grows older! Ain't we driving him to it?
    Sri
     
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    Lavanya Bronze IL'ite

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    I accept that we are who we are by what we've experienced but we still have the choice to be or not to be in a certain way. So I won't accept the argument that we are driven to be any particular kind of person. If we make a grouch out of ourselves it is our choice to do so & we have to take the responsibility for that choice.
     
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    Cheeniya Super Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Lavanya
    Agreed! I accept full responsibility!
    Groucho Sri
     
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    Hey Cheeniya Sir

    I think, a grouch is pleased to some extent only... and this pleasing is not because anybody respects him, but because people are afraid of what unpleasant he mite say at a happy event... in other words is a grouch is unhappy (which is why he is a grouch) he will take ur happiness away like this... That is why the Host has appointed his reps to see to him and nothing more... which is soo clear that hosts themselves dont want to take trouble of handling this fella...

    i have seen such grouchs... in my family only and some are even very close... and ya they do get unnecessary importance... but to some extent only and with that they lose the respect too...

    so i think the elders should themselves try and understand, and learn to be happy in other's happiness, that is the only way they can earn respect, love and a place in everyone's heart.

    ~Abha
     
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    Cheeniya Super Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Abha
    That's very true though I fail to understand why anyone should bother about what a grouch says or does and to give him VIP status just to keep him quiet! And do you think he'll keep quiet even after enjoying the best possible treatment? I doubt very much.
    The best thing is to sideline him which might be good for him and us in the long run though initially it could create some problems!
    Sri
     
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    Yaa, Right said, i mean we are worried, that he might wish bad for us or has an evil eye or something.... but there are ppl in the world who are aur sugar and honey on the outside, but still those are the ppl burning from inside seeing other's happiness....

    See there are all kind of ppl in the world and if u r sitting amongst 10 ppl, there mite only be 2 ppl out of those who MIGHT wish well for u and rest all will definitely be jealous of something or the other that they already have and are really losing night's sleep, Because you have had IT right now... i hope i'm not creating a confusion here...

    but its better to ignore such grouch's.... But yaa if they are are elders and some close relatives then we have to ask them a bit. So much to maintain relationships !!!!
     
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    Dear Cheeniya,
    That was a funny piece but how very true. I think people pamper to the whims of the grouches, just so they can avoid the back lash that follows. If the " gavanipu" is not good, oh my there is hell to pay for it as all and sundry in the whole wide world will come to know of the treatment metted out to the Grouch!!. So until the time we are concerned about what others will think about us, we will continue to pamper the Grouches of the world, and lose out on the more goodnatured people.
    Yes I have had my share of Grouches too. And at one point i did make it a point of enough is enough, No bending over backwards to try to make these people happy. ( because by nature they cannot be pleased ).

    Vandhana
     
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    Dear Sri,
    I fully agree with you that very often a grouch is a winner.
    We would rather try our best to please him for fear of his words of complaint which, in all probability may not be uttered by him at all. He may be anti social, but gets more respect by virtue of this nature, strangely ! I would even say, it pays to be a grouch, very often. A smiling person (as you have described yourself!) commands respect, though not always; but a grouch demands respect and gets it as well !
    What is the tamil equivalent for a grouch? - sidumoonji, ummana moonji ?
    Love,
    Chithra
    (a former mild grouch who has swung to the other extreme, unbelievably!)
     
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