That could be Napoleon's talking point to confirm that the marriage was done as wished by the son. There is no way of confirming this and only the parents and Dhanush will know the real fact. Dhanush is an educated individual who knows well about what is expected out of a marriage and frankly the new generation of people are lot more independent in thinking than earlier generation of people. I understand that there could be multiple point of views on this topic and I feel this marriage would bring more stress to Dhanush and his wife than making them happy. It is just my view.
No doubt about it. He is well-educated and fully aware of what a marriage entails. Yet, he willingly agreed to this marriage. I don't believe he was coerced into it by Napoleon or his wife. Education and exposure often have little influence when a man decides to follow his desires. It’s similar to how Dhanush insisted on the Japan trip, despite doctors warning that such a long journey could be fatal at the time. Yet, Napoleon’s relentless efforts eventually paved the way for his son to fulfill that dream safely after nearly eight years. I view this marriage through the same lens.
First post Second post Which is it? These two opinions appear to be contradictory to each other. Raising a child without parents saying "no" to the child is the parents' prerogative but when it involves another life, it is a different story. I think you and I have a different view about this wedding and I respectfully disagree with your assessment.
My views. He is aware of what a Marriage means. I agree to this point Raising a child without parents saying "no" to the child is the parents' prerogative but when it involves another life, it is a different story. But here the Girl has agreed to this Marriage as per her and her parents. Her parents have explained to her about MD and what it Entails in future. At age 21, she may not be fully mature and understand all this. But there is no coercion from Napolean family
Apologies if my earlier posts were unclear. What I meant was that while Dhanush is an educated adult who understands the basic expectations of marriage, he seems unable to grasp the deeper implications of his decision. Education or age doesn't give this wisdom but certain experiences in life will. Having grown up as a privileged child who was rarely told “no” by his parents, he might not fully understand the long-term consequences of marrying this woman. In my view, Napoleon is doing everything he can to keep his son happy and prolong his life. As a loving father, his decision to arrange this marriage isn’t entirely wrong. He ensured that the family was fully aware of his son’s condition, wealth, and other factors before proceeding. He even had an open discussion with the girl to confirm there was no coercion involved. For this, I wouldn’t fault him. However, the girl’s situation adds complexity. While she is legally an adult, she is likely too young and inexperienced to fully understand the weight of this decision. This situation is not black and white but filled with gray areas: 1. Her socioeconomic background: She comes from a poor family. 2. Health concerns: She reportedly has some illness, though it’s unclear if it affects her marriage prospects. 3. Opportunities: Marrying Dhanush offers her a luxurious life in the U.S., and there’s a possibility her family could benefit financially and socially in the future. 4. Lack of exposure: She doesn’t seem to have a strong educational background or varied life experiences. It’s also worth noting that her parents might not fully understand what conditions like muscular dystrophy (MD) entail or the challenges involved in such a marriage. This isn’t unusual in rural communities where awareness about such matters is limited. In fact, many women in these contexts lack even basic knowledge about sexual health. For example, some have never understood or experienced sexual pleasure (orgasm) but have lived long married lives, raised children, and gained life experience in other ways. For this reason, I wouldn’t blame Napoleon’s sambanthis either. This situation is undeniably complex, and there are no easy answers. So, it is ok to disagree with my opinion.
Girl was 18 when parents of Napolean's wife approached for alliance . They kept visiting the family saying they are interested to have marriage alliance. First daughter got married to one of the relatives . In span of 3 years no one knows how much of actual convincing happened .But stating there is nothing happened and girl consented is contrary to truth. If every girl should approach her life with worst case scenario then we are setting ourselves for failure. Girl said yes but under what condition no one knows. Time will only tell how this is going to pane out. If tomorrow girl decides to leave the marriage and get married to someone else will this Napolean still brag that she is kulasaami . He is just emotionally locking the girl to his son by giving all these tags which isn't needed . I hope the girl finds happiness eventually.
I agree it is a complex problem and I am not sure whether the solution derived would work well. Time will tell how this works but my best wishes to the couple as they are young. Here is my experience about such weddings. Two of my extended family members with medically challenged sons try to find a match for their respective sons. Both families are rich. It is always the case that such families go and find out brides from poor families, which in my view, is also coersion. Luckily one of them was capable of making independent decision and told his parents point blank that he is not interested in a wedding and put an end to that discussion. He continues to live as a bachelor. Another one who is incapable of making informed decisions, the parents decided to find a poor bride (convincing a vulnerable bride's family) and conducted the wedding successfully despite objection from other family members. The bride had serious problem with her conjugal relationship (which she shared with all relatives on the bridegroom's side) and after 5 years, decided to walk away from the marriage as well as all wealth that marriage was supposed to bring to her. The parents in law tried to convince her to stay in the marriage so that she can inherit all their wealth but she refused. She realized her parents arranged this wedding for money and she felt money was the root cause of her sufferings. Therefore, she decided to work hard on her own in a different city building some lucrative business for 15 years and eventually died out of illness. This son who is incapable of making decisions, still cries that his wife left him. I am not suggesting that Dhanush will face this situation but I am just sharing this to say why I have a strong view on these types of wedding arrangements. I have seen the suffering of that bride myself and it was painful to watch leave alone experiencing it.
In my opinion other than mom or dad or sibling no one can give undivided attention to someone in this situation. There should be some connection for them to dedicate their life for such noble cause . In case of social workers they have great passion from young age or life altering experience which makes them choose this path. I truly hope the girl if she ends up changing her mind in future has avenues or support system to get out of this marriage .