A Daring Truth..

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  1. nandinimithun

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    Dear @anika987
    I am not on any social handles, i found that either i dont belong there or those social sites arent for me.....

    Irrespective of this, if i have continued with a lie it is that, my friends feel that i focus a lot on cooking and know lot of recipes, in reality i dont know much i cook the same safe fool proof dishes that my family loves....

    I tell my friends that 8 hours of sleep is a must for me in reality i can do with 4 or 5 hours of sleep, i love reading and looking uo for articles, learning words.... I am happy with myself, another lie that i am happy with company.... Hmm i am happy with my own company and like minded company...

    Hugs
    Nandu
     
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  2. anika987

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    :beer-toast1: Even I love my own company..just like you.

    Especially during winter times,I make for myself crispy bajjis, hot chai and cover myself with a blanket and watch my favorite movie:) That is ultimate hapiness..If there is good company,great! else also I feel good being on my own..
     
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    Wow, chai, bajjis and blanket, instead of movie i will have a book with me...
    Maybe we should meet up once
     
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    i was also like this earlier..was perfectly happy reading a good novel or watching movies all by myself..have spent my school and college days as an introvert with some close friends. But now I feel the need for some good friends. The pandemic has made me realise what i missed. When situation becomes normal in future i want to have a good social life and catch up with all my friends.
     
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    I love to be alone reading the whole day. I am not active on social media though I am forced to be on WhatsApp groups due to my kids' school works. I don't take any tension or stress. I go with the flow most of the times.( I tell my husband why should two people think in family. One can think, other can enjoy. You can't enjoy like me so I stopped thinking. )

    I don't like to attend functions nor dress up for parties so i find reasons to avoid them. I have few good friends whom I can count upon so in regular touch with them. As couple myself and husband give a lot of personal space to one another . We sit in the same room for hours together without disturbing other person. Acquaintances call me boring sometimes but I don't bother. As long as I am happy nothing matters.
     
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    am glad to know there are people like me too..I used to feel different but now I also have people with similar interests as me.:beer-toast1:
     
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    One can’t be telling truth, only truth and all l the time truth.
    Dark truth is opposite of white lie .
    Truth can vary depending upon time, persons and situations.
    I act poor fearing others lest might be tempted to ask loan from me.
    I pose as if I have no savings so that others would be happy!
    I act as happy I am so that spouse would be happy
    I lie to teacher I had Nature’s call to buy a toffee & peanuts
    I lie to daughter & son, lest they would take me to specialist.
    I lie to spouse I did but I shall be doing it now.
    I lie on mobile am on drive
    I lied to mom am returning from college but it was from matinee cinema hall
    I lie to impress so that I get better choice
    I pose as rich so that salesman show the best
    I boast as rich so the shop staff bows
    I park car at a distance so that I haggle for price measured by hand in flower stall
    I got to be a hypocrite & charlatan
    ......
    A young mater seeking admission in school with her kid was travelling in a bus. A senior lady by window was next.
    Tickets - tickets - conductor clicking his punching machine approached her she said one ticket to “Xavier school”.
    “ what about ticket for kid”
    “ she is not yet five”
    In The school - interview.
    As soon as she entered with kid,
    surprised to see the senior lady at seat who sat next to her in bus.
    Interview began with age of kid.
    “ your baby had completed five?”
    “ yes Mam”
    “ you are lieing. In the bus - to conductor you said she is not yet five”
    ...
     
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    My problem is that I don't ask for help easily so from the outside my life seems perfect and well-balanced! Like @Rihana said the other's perception of my life is different from my own day-to-day struggles. I always help as much as I can without expecting things in return.

    I never asked my parents or siblings for help when money was tight so they think I never have/had financial difficulties and they don't think twice before asking for help from me.

    I never asked my parents to come and help during my deliveries so everyone thinks it was a piece of cake and sometimes will say that your babies were easy, or you are strong, you could handle it.

    I don't complain about life in general (health issues, workload, etc.) so everyone thinks I have none of those issues :).

    My family thinks that I travel all the time (pre-pandemic days) and have fun exploring places while in truth a lot of travel is work related. I do keep a day to explore the place if I am traveling but it is not like they envision it.

    I am on FB and Twitter but I don't feel compelled to post pictures. I hardly post anything anymore. I follow a few groups on FB and usually check for updates.

    I know my perfectly balanced life from the outside is just as messy as anyone else's but people have their own views and I am not correcting them :).
     
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    I need some hot bajji's now.
     
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