# 90% of life is decided by how you react

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1. ### cheerSilver IL'ite

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10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing \$60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.<SCRIPT><!--D(["mb","\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>A) Did the coffee cause it? \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>B) Did your daughter cause it? \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>C) Did the policeman cause\n it? \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>D) Did you cause it? \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>The answer is &quot; D&quot;. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>You had no control over what happened with the coffee. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>",1]);//--></SCRIPT>

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

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2. ### cheerSilver IL'ite

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Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.<SCRIPT><!--D(["mb","\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cb\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-weight:bold;font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/b\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Symbol\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Symbol\"\>�\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:7pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Symbol\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Symbol\"\>�\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:7pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? ",1]);//--></SCRIPT>
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
? If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?<SCRIPT><!--D(["mb","\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>Remember the\n 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Symbol\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Symbol\"\>�\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:7pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Symbol\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Symbol\"\>�\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:7pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cb\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Verdana\" color\u003d\"#a13f00\" size\u003d\"3\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-weight:bold;font-size:12pt;color:#a13f00;font-family:Verdana\"\>Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it...!",1]);//--></SCRIPT>

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Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it...!<SCRIPT><!--D(["mb","\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/b\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" color\u003d\"black\" size\u003d\"1\"\>\u003cspan style\u003d\"font-size:9pt;color:black;font-family:Arial\"\>\u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003c/div\> \u003cdiv\>\u003cfont face\u003d\"Arial\" size\u003d\"2\"\>\u003cspan lang\u003d\"EN-GB\" style\u003d\"font-size:10pt;font-family:Arial\"\> \u003c/span\>\u003c/font\>\u003cbr\>\u003c/div\>\u003c/div\>\u003c/blockquote\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cbr\>\u003cdiv\>\u003cem\>\u003cfont color\u003d\"#ff00ff\"\>Thanks & Regards,\u003cbr\> \u003cbr\>\u003cstrong\>A.Senthil Prabu,\u003cbr\>\u003c/strong\>Jr. Signal Engg,",1]);//--></SCRIPT>

PS-sorry ladies i don't know what happened why it's says extend words limit although it's not very lenthy

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Thank you so much. Its true its how we react to it in life.
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5. ### cheerSilver IL'ite

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U're welcome madhu, nice to hear u like it

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Very much true....

7. ### cheerSilver IL'ite

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Thanx puni

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Dear Cheer,

its Very good.........

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Thanx Iman

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