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5 Marriage Lessons that Mothers Should Give to their Sons.

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by oysterzzz, Mar 13, 2014.

  1. oysterzzz

    oysterzzz Gold IL'ite

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    Hi all,

    I came across this beautiful msg in my fb. Thought of sharing with you all. Please excuse if you have already read it. I hope all MILs would read this once and follow it.

    5 Marriage Lessons that Mothers Should Give to their Sons
    When it comes to marriages, mothers share a lot of information and give a lot of advice to their daughters. But, they often forget or overlook the importance of imparting some advice when it comes to their sons. In fact, the relationship a son has with his mother or how he sees his mother, is usually reflected on how he sees and treats other women, especially his wife. Therefore, it is important for mothers to have a chat with their sons just before their marriage, on marriage.

    Don’t compare your wife with me!

    A mother should make sure that her son never compares his wife to her. Whether it comes to cooking or managing the household, most men end up comparing their better halves to their mommies (knowingly or unknowingly). Dear son, you need to realise that your mother has more than two decades of experience of being a wife (and mother). While, your life partner is as new to marriage as you are. So, whether it is her culinary skills, managing the budget, waking up on time, or anything that the super-mommy does better, do not compare it all with your wife. Your wife is just as awesome in her own way (isn’t that the reason you both are together?), and some day she will be just an awesome mommy to your child.


    Your wife is not your "mommy"!

    That’s right, guys! Your wife is not your mommy. This means, it is time to grow up, become responsible, and do some work yourself. And don’t crib about how your mother used to pamper you all the time. You were your mother’s baby, and she was there to take care of you. On the other hand, to your wife, you are her companion, and so you both have to take care of each other. Help her out, divide work, and no matter what, take care of your own things. This means, socks go in the laundry and not on the floor and the wet towel does not belong on the bed.


    Respect your life partner!

    Yes, your parents will always be important for you and even for your better half. Having said that, your wife is the one who will be standing by your side and facing all the ups and downs with you always. So, she needs to be treated as an equal. Share with her everything, take her advice in every decision, and give importance to her opinions. Make her your priority. She will never be able to or try to undermine your mother’s position in your life. But, she too deserves your respect. Once you truly see your wife as your ‘better half’ and ‘life partner’, you will be living the happiest marriage.


    Help your wife at every step!

    Your wife has kissed goodbye to her family and home for you. So, now it is your turn to make her feel as comfortable as possible in the new home. Her life has turned upside down, and even small things can make her uncomfortable and anxious. So, make sure you become her partner and guide in her new home. Also, make sure that she feels at ease to talk about her feelings. Make sure that you do small little things to make her adjustment to the new environment and lifestyle pleasant and easy.



    Never stop loving your better half!

    Not even 40 years later when her hair will not be shiny black or stylish and her face will not have her natural pink blush. Love her unconditionally. Accept her just the way she is because that is the reason you chose her as your better half. Keep surprising her, make her laugh, sweep her off her feet, and keep the relationship forever new and young. Tell her how much you love her even when her hair is all messy when she wakes up in the morning, or when she has flour on her face while she is making chappathis, and all the other times when she feels that she looks like a mess. Mommy dear, please share your ‘happy and healthy marriage’ secrets with him, because he also needs them as much as your daughters or daughters-in-law do.
     
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  2. Mahajanpragati

    Mahajanpragati Platinum IL'ite

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    good one but the print is too small to read comfortably
     
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  3. droplet

    droplet Silver IL'ite

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    :confused2: How nice it would be if everyone could send this as an anonymous mail to their mils. And after reading this mail, mils turn good and teaches their son :) wishes that are never going to happen. thinkingsmiley
     
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  4. sweetestshweta

    sweetestshweta Gold IL'ite

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    :thumbsup Oysterzzz

    Loved all the points.Will definitely tell my son if I'll be blessed with one..
    Wish someone gave these to my MIL
     
  5. ars

    ars Platinum IL'ite

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    Good points,
    Be it daughter or son, I feel children learn more by watching than hearing. It is always the dynamics that they see at work between Mom and Dad which will stay with them forever.
     
  6. RedRuby

    RedRuby Platinum IL'ite

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    Very good points, thanks a lot for sharing... wish every mom wud teach their sons.

    I was just wondering one thing.. if a mother raises her sons in a manner they beliefe women to be equal, and represent marriage as a partnership.. wud it even necessary to tell them in a single conversation these things?

    Aaaaand... it made me think that boys shud be aware of not comparing mother with wife.. yes i agree. I agree too that mother has ages of experience in household wether the Dil has not... but what about the boy himself?? Isnt it better the teach the sons equality and to help out in household chores instead of feeling they are already the good hubbies if they dont complain about their newly wed wife if she struggles to do all the tasks alone?
    Shudnt we as mothers think more about the way we represent a "good" wife or a "normal" marriage to our children? No matter if male or female kids. We are rolemodels.. just made me think a lot...

    thanks again for interesting post :)
     
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    rachaputi Platinum IL'ite

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    She will change the title

    ' 5 lessons that sons should not follow'
     
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  8. droplet

    droplet Silver IL'ite

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    rachaputi: she will first forward (again anonymous) the email to her daughter's in law as such and then change the title as u said. ;-)
     
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    rachaputi Platinum IL'ite

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    Already i was diverted the steering of the topic, you are making path to it.. :)

    ....................:shhh: :shaking::hide:
     
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  10. oysterzzz

    oysterzzz Gold IL'ite

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    yes, i didnt notice while posting. to see big font, you may keep on pressing ctrl+ until you r comfortable and to decrease the font again press ctrl-. This will zoom in/out your page. hope this helps.


     

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