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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rajapriyab, Sep 24, 2013.

  1. Rajapriyab

    Rajapriyab Bronze IL'ite

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    Ladies,

    I have posted many forums here about the problems am facing in my married life. Currently am living with my mom and my 2 lil daughters(2 years and 3 months old). myself and my husband are not in talking terms now right from my second pregnancy and no contacts for the past 3 months. No financial or physical support from him tight from marriage. I was thinking to put Maintenance case against my husband but he was sending me messages like he is going to divorce me.

    So I waited for sometime to let him go to court first. Last sunday he came to my mom's house after having alcohol and beat me badly, broke my cellphone where i had all his messages. I went to police station and filed complaint against him. they called my hubby and he came with advocate. Police investigated me and hubby and we had one round of counselling yesterday. I clearly told them that he and his mom has done enough (physical and verbal abuse) and i dont want to live with him. Police asked us to come again tomorrow. After coming out of police station he,his brother started to threaten me. I am going to tell this to police tommorrow and clearly am going to convey them that I cant live with him who doesn't even care about his kids. After that I am going to file for divorce under domestic violence.

    I feel happy to come out of abusive relationship but at the same time I feel bad about my kids about their future. Good or bad Its all come to an end now. I can live my life for myself and kids. Frankly speaking the ladies over here and my close friends, and especially my mom are more supportive all the time. I have to move on and pass this phase.
     
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  2. Bavishya

    Bavishya Platinum IL'ite

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    HI
    dont worry.all will be fine soon,be positive and be brave u should look after ur children too.
     
  3. sumalynux

    sumalynux IL Hall of Fame

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    Very very sorry to hear this Dear...

    I am glad you stood up against your problems, but i feel sorry for you and lil kids...

    First and foremost thing is appoint a Good Divorce Lawyer...This police is not
    going to help you....They will just make your roam and expect money....

    Even your complaints matters will be twisted, if your dh bribe them..
    So accompany advocate even to give complaints and sending notice
    and stuff..Tell lawyer you dont have much money now, and talk about
    one time fees to him(once you get settlement you can pay) Many
    lawyers do this....(You may just have to pay for paper work and other
    basic charges)

    Collect as much as evidence as possible..But most of laws are for
    women, its very easy to win domestic violence and Dowry cases..

    Once things get out of police station and court hearing starts, start
    going to job also, it will help you get more confidence..

    Be brave, life is going to be very difficult with two girl kids, but not Impossible..

    May god stand by you, and help you pass through this phase....
     
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    tcbhuvana Gold IL'ite

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    I pray for you priya.. soon you will get peace in your life and live happily with your kids..
     
  5. Rajapriyab

    Rajapriyab Bronze IL'ite

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    Thanks for the suggestion friends..
    @sumayal : Thanks dear. Your advices are more valuable for me. I am working in IT and currently on maternity leave. So mostly i will not have any financial problems. and about the lawyer i asked help from my mom's schoolmate who is very experienced and famous lawyer. So i hope he will do good for me.

    I am feeling very bad about god why he gave me this kind of life. I am single parented kid and my kids are also going to be like this. I am fed up with god.
     
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    sushmavja Platinum IL'ite

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    rajapriya, be brave and may you get strength to pass this phase
     
  7. sumalynux

    sumalynux IL Hall of Fame

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    I am really relieved to read you are working women....

    Dont loose hopes on God, Rajapriyab..It is just a phase..It will pass.....

    Kids are better of with you instead of abusive and bad father...
     
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    gurpreetsingh Gold IL'ite

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    Hi ... congrats on moving out of abusive relation... please do not worry .
    . Be very strong now .. i know you are courageous and hence could come out of hell... dont worry dear ... god will be on the side of good people ..
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Best Wishes Rajapriya.....Take care and be happy.
     
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    More strength to you!
     

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