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13 month old girl not sleeping continously during night.

Discussion in 'Toddlers' started by sweetpinky1, Dec 14, 2012.

  1. sweetpinky1

    sweetpinky1 New IL'ite

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    Hi everyone, my dd is 13 months old. She s not sleeping continuously in night. She wakes up every 3 to 4 hrs and she want milk to go back to sleep.. I make sure her tummy is full, change her nappies when she first goes to bed, i don know what to do.. at this age she should sleep at least 10-12 hrs i think,most of the days i get very tired because of this sleeping pattern.... please pour on your experience..

    cheers
    sweetpinky1
     
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  2. mommynow

    mommynow Silver IL'ite

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    Hi
    Do not worry, my DS also used wake up every 3-4 hrs at night until 18 months after that he started sleeping max 7 or 8 hrs but that too in between he gets up, I will pat him to sleep. Give solid foods before sleep,make her wear comfortable clothes during sleep according to the season, try giving her water or pat her. Its not that a 13 month old should sleep 10-12 hrs at a stretch. Every child is different.This phase will also pass away soon:)
     
  3. sweetpinky1

    sweetpinky1 New IL'ite

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    Hi mommynow

    thanks alot for your support......... I can understand every child is different.. i ll try giving her water instead of milk.. waiting for the good change..

    --sweetpinky1
     
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    coolblues Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi Sweetpinky1:

    My DD let me get continuous hours of 4 to 5 hours of sleep only when she was nearing two and a half years. Some children do take a long time to adjust to the new world outside the womb. Check if she is warm enough, is there anything that could disturb her, such as noise, smell etc, check for mosquitoes, etc.. the list is never ending for sensitive kids. If you feel if her environment is perfectly ok, then i guess you just need to wait for her biological pattern to get normal. Don't fret, there are thousands of others who have gone through this :) And this is a vulnerable time when we want to make the child to sleep or be quiet. We may try giving her a pacifier etc. This can get into a rut in no time. Watch out and avoid giving her a pacifier.

    Hope this helps.
     
  5. Nivimum

    Nivimum Junior IL'ite

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    My 13 months old daughter is waking up in the night and
    She falls asleep when I put her on bed with me..,.she is doing this for a week...:(
    I want her to sleep in the crib...,
     
  6. guesshoo

    guesshoo IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi SweetPInki,

    I used a mix of several techniques but mainly from baby whisperer to sleep train my DD. It is hard work but it works beautifully. My DD is now 20 mo and I trained her at 9 months.

    She has her own cot which she can't climb out of. During the day I made sure she has eaten good quantities of food. Milk before bedtime and that's it. When she woke up during the night, I'd only give her water even if she asks for milk. I used to keep repeating "lie down and go to sleep" without making eye contact. She will try to do cute things to make me play with her. Or cry loudly to evoke sympathy. But my husband and I refused to engage with her or even turn the light on.

    Initially she cried for over an hour because she wasn't getting her way. I kept patting her without taking her out of her cot and saying calmly "It's ok darling. You are just going to sleep. Close your eyes." In less than a week she got the hang of it. (Day 1 was horrible; days 2 and 3 were cool; days 4, 5, 6, she again cried horribly, but we stuck with the plan an it worked) Within 2 weeks, it was totally established. The key was to not pick the child up/ engage with the child despite the cries. It is harder for the parent than for the child. But if we are persistent, the results are brilliant. After my DD was sleep trained, even her eating habits became better. We could see clearly she had more energy while awake.

    She still wakes up in the middle of the night on odd days when she is teething/ has gas/ something. But for most part, she is asleep for 10-12 hours.

    I hope this helps. Good luck.
    xx
     
  7. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    I was told by my pediatrician that by the time baby reaches 1 year, its better to wean them off from night time feedings. Its hard and hugs to you. My daughter is 12 months now and once in a while she wakes up. All i have to do is just lay my hand on her and she drifts back to sleep. You can try a variety of things...everything is trial and error.

    1. Wean her off gradually; better start late than never! If she is hungry after 4 hours, then it means she is getting up out of habit and not because she is hungry. Try diluting the milk and give her. For example, if you are feeding her 100 ml milk, mix 50 ml milk and 50 ml water the first week. Next week, mix 25 ml milk and 75 ml water. by 4th weekend, you should be giving her only water. She is less likely to get up only for water.
    Its a gentler way of weaning compared to going cold turkey.

    2. Feed her enough during day time, specially during evenings. I normally feed her dinner (something heavy like rice) at 6 PM. Then she plays for a bit and I give her a bath. At 7:30, I give her some cereal (cerelac). she plays for a bit and then I top her up with milk. By 8 PM she is asleep.

    3. Maintain (well, try) a routine so that she knows whats coming next.

    4. If she is sleeping well with you, then its the insecurity of the child. Spend plenty of time in her room so that she knows she is safe. Keep telling her (even if you think she is not understanding you) repeatedly that you will be there when she needs you. And true to your word, go and comfort her when she wakes up but leave her alone when she is asleep.
    This worked for me.

    5. Make sure she is getting plenty of physical activity like playing on the floor everyday.

    These are the things which worked for me. There is absolutely no right or wrong way of parenting. I did not feel comfortable with cry-it-out method; so I followed the above steps.
     
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    vjbunny IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Rakhi
    Good to see you back
    How are you and LO?
     
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    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    Thanks VJ! We are doing good. She is having trouble adjusting to daycare but I hope she will come around :)
    How have you been?
     
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    ramyaramani Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    @rakhii glad to see you back. It should be just a matter of time before dd gets used to day care. Hope yourIndia trip went well.
     

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