Hi Very nice sharing and very much needed one The depression created by the feeling that they have no role to play in anyone's life, might even lead to suicide or wander astray, away from home. To avoid that, they have to be entrusted with some small work, which you consider, are easy and safe for them to handle. " " Appa , please count these notes and give me the figure." You know already the value, but still give him an opportunity to count the currency you have earned. 'amma, keep my food ready, I might come back early today " You repeat the instruction already given to your wife and it is she who is going to keep the food ready. But your demand from your mom excites her; she enjoy musing your young days when you used to go home running from the school shouting, 'Amma, pasikkarathu, I am hungry" My mom used to consult my grand mother every morning, 'amma, what to cook today?". The old lady would suggest some menu, the younger one might or might not go by that, the elder one never used to ask for an explanation for the change and in case there were a query, a pleasing answer would have been there. There is a charm and challenge in raising your children. It is a much easier task to handle the elders. And of course, elders too should treat the younger ones with affection They should deserve what they desire .