I don't like DH idea....pls help me !

DH wants to buy a house in the US and live here. I don't like the idea. The very thought of us living in this country for the next 20-25 years makes me so depressed. I want to move back after a year or so....better less than a year since my dd is already 10 and do not want her to have trouble adjusting while we keep moving like this.

It is getting harder for me to get DH see the point. I just don't like the whole idea...living far from Parents. Dad and mom are also getting old. Though we do not have a house in India but am happy to live in rented one and later think of buying a house. I am not at all thinking of big house or 2 cars etc etc. DH is always in that mood. Thinking of buying big TV, replacing the old car, and now out of the blue buying a house in the US!..

I tried talking to some of my friends here and all they say is " you are so lucky, your hubby is buying a house" and some of them " How can you not like buying house in the US?"
UGHHHHHHHHHH...................I just can't take it anymore.

Please help ladies. How do I convince him that I am dead against the whole thing. DH says it is good for our daughter's future since studies here are better than India. I don't get the whole thing. He and me also did our entire education from India. What better?....bu@#..sh@#...Why can't he see that? He says there is too much competition there etc etc. But aren't there kids studying there too? And dd is smart too!

Why doesn't this man understand? These days we are not talking only because of this issue.


Looking for all you advise.

Parvati

 

Thanks Rakhi for you reply.

He is in the software industry and with all the experience he has he can get a good job in India though he has never applied since he does not like working in India. Some of his colleagues have gone back for good and I am sure if he tries it is not hard and till he gets a job we have enough to fall back on.

Regarding Parents, they will never come and live with us in the US. Last time they came to live for 6 months it got so hard on them...only I know. But they lived without complaining because we may feel bad. My dad though around 70 yrs is very active socially and mom has her own circle and missed her place very much. I tried asking them but they say they cannot live that life here..it is like jail for them. They have to depend on us to take them out and for everything. It is like losing their freedom.

I think life will be fine in India if we do not expect all that we have here and get ourselves tuned to the living there. But will hubby ever get my point.


Parvati

 

Thanks budugu for your reply.

What is the point in investing such a huge amount as to buy a house in this country when you cannot sell it even at the cost price if you want to. You may sell it at a profit but seeing the economy I don't think in the coming 8-10 years you can sell it at a profit. How can we go back without selling it here.And then we have dd coming up to college in the next 8 years.
I have not seen people being happy buying houses here...there is always so much expenditure attached to it and work too! What if we cannot sell it and we have to move back? What headache?????

With half of that money we can afford to live comfortably in India.

His Parents are getting old too is something he has pushed it on his sister's head who lives closeby.
Poor soul...his sister. If I try telling him that then he says what is your problem she is taking care and I am sending money?