friends after marriage

Deepi

One question I have is...if your friend knows that she loves her husband and she is just friends with her college mate...why ask this question at all???:roll: do you ask such a question about any of your girl friends???that is it ok to have a girl friend after marriage???

As per me, it shows that she is not clear about her own feelings towards this college mate friend of hers!! or iis she confiding in him too much? i mean personal issues or marital issues??or about her husband?

Does her husband know about this male friend??

Those who have nothing to hide or nothing to be scared of, will be very open and wont question themselves or raise doubts about their friends..unless there is something cheezy about that friend or about her own self or the feelings they have for each other!!

If she is bothered about what her husband thinks....then let her introduce her friend to her husband too , that way she dont have to feel guilty about this friend..

However...to answer your question in short..there is nothing wrong in having male friends before / after marriage...provided we know where to draw the limits...and what kindof a friend ship we have with them..

 

i agree with srividya... when she is clear abt 'just friendship' and is the only one who knows how her hubby will react, then no one can judge/decide whats good for her!

 

Hi Deep
Few husbands are pranky, when they find that their wife speak to another male. And ya I feel they dont understand the value of friendship. There are men / women who still think that their spouse should not be having a friend of the opposite gender.
If your friend's DH is not one of such in character then let your friend know her DH about her male friend that she spoke to him today / met him. If her DH is not fine with it then let her reduce on the talks with her friend, FRIENDS UNDERSTAND and DH CANT BE A FRIEND.

 

I am not sure why this question came up to you. If her husband does not like her having men friends then she should definitely avoid it or keep it to a minimum (like not chat everyday). Such small steps sometimes are important to make a marriage work.

It would be the same for her husband if she did not like him having a friend (woman)

 

Certainly it is not bad to have a male friend. Important thing is to be sure to tell DH about him and not ignore it, thinking that he is a friend, like any other. Also, I find chatting daily with that guy is way too much. What do they talk? Is your friend guiding him or helping him or teaching him? If it is just plain chat, then there is no reason to do that daily.
Sandhya

 

Better to let him know upfront that so and so is a friend and introduce, and be open than have big misunderstandings later on.