Mismatch?????

shakambari · Jun 28, 2009

Hi all,

How ever much we adjust ourselves with our spouse there are times when

we feel "THATS IT . THIS IS A MISMATCH"...

Have u ever felt like that?

If so , what made u feel like that?

april1981 · Jun 29, 2009

Oh yes i have felt it many times and have promptly told him so.

ayeshanaaz · Jun 29, 2009

Yes, I have also felt it when he does things that people of my cast would dare not do it.

Actually we belong to differst sub-castes. He follows all those rituals, which I can't even dream of doing (cause it is believed to be cursed in my caste). But seeing your husband do it, is really painful.

Though I have accepted this to an extent but still I find ourselves a MISMATCH on this particular ground.

Regards
Ayeshanaaz

Chandrika82 · Jun 29, 2009

Oh yes... its not life threatening in my case, but there are small little things that would make me irritate and sometimes get escalated into a full blown fight..

Sample this. I prefer getting seated in a movie theater atleast 5 min before start of the movie. I want to watch all the ads, the trailers and never miss the opening of the movie.

My DH is just the opposite. He would never ever make it to a movie on time, never mind ahead of time ! This would seem trivial but it gets on my nerves everytime. Its not just the movie, the basic problem is i like being punctual and he is always late :rant

Well, short term solution i made up is.. if a movie starts at 7, i tell him its at 6:30..so we'll reach the place by atleast 6:45 :cheers

shakambari · Jun 29, 2009

Thanks for the fbs-April, Ayeshanaaz and Chandrika...

As u rightly put it - as long as the issue is not life threatening, fine learn to brush it aside and get along..

Best- talk it out.

mlk2009 · Jul 1, 2009

I have felt it so many times.
I love romance, comedy movies
he loves war, life history movies
I want the house to be loud and active and fun
he wants it to be quiet, solemn and no noises of any kind.
i love NV food
he loves veg food
i love to go out and party with friends
he loves to stay home with his laptop
i love to spend money and enjoy life
he loves to save save and save every penny

so everyday i think we are mismatched ...

shakambari · Jul 2, 2009

Hi Mlk2009,

Saw ur list...

But are they all not ultimately trivial shortfalls ?

AkilaMani · Jul 2, 2009

Hi shakambari,

yes mlk's list seems to be what u say as trivial shortfalls.

as for myself, i hv never once felt that ours is a mismatch. on the contrary, i feel that we r made for each other. of course, we hv totally different tastes and likes and have difference of opinion on lot of things, but we deeply respect each others views.

i truely hope, those who feel that theirs is a mismatch, rise above the trivialities and take a broader look at life. at the end of the day, it is love and compassion for each other that really matters, not the movies u watch or food u like.