Strange situation

Just know that no matter what, your gut instinct will always be right. I am sorry if I added to your paranoia. To me, not seeing them just this one time isn't a big deal. I reasoned it out thinking you aren't cutting them out for life!!!

I just want you to come out of this in one piece. A little caution sometimes goes a long way!

Hugs to you, my friend.

 

Make a kind excuse "work needs u"; health issues etc and soak yourself in a warm bath tub and relax. Sounds like you have a plateful to handle, save the rest for later. Invite them once everything is settled and you have won your custody !

Just my thots!!

 

Dear Drjp,

Right now I feel, ur priority is ur children and getting their custody. Friends, if they are genuine well wishers, will surely understand ur situation, if you say no to them.

How close is this friend of yours? If they are vey close to you and if you feel that they might understand dilema well, then you can tell them ur abt ur fears maybe.

take care,
sihi

 

Hi Drjp,

So sorry to hear you are going through rough divorce. I think I agree with all the other ladies that you should make up an excuse and not have the friends stay over. Why go through the tension? At this time in your life you must be handling so many things at once, why add on one more worry? If you are on two minds about it, definitely you should go with your instinct, it's usually always right. Just my opinion. Take care Drjp!

 

My dear Drjp,

Why do you call it paranoia? It could very well be called being careful, being cautious or trying to avoid adding unnecessary "what if's" to the already complicated situation in your life. So don' t think that your saying no to your friend's is driven solely by paranoia. Not at all.

Circumstances and situations in life teach just some things. Given that everyone is not handed out the same situations in life, it is a fact that we all learn different things in life and in different ways. So believe and trust your instincts. Don't undermine your feelings and don't try to look at them as being negative. Your feelings are what they are and they are that way for a good reason. Every living moment we are undergoing some or the other change in one or the other area of our life. These changes may or may not be permanent. So don't worry about letting paranoia take over your personality.

Just acknowledge to yourself that at this point in your life your cannot blindly trust any one or that you are less willing to give as much benefit of doubt to someone as you used to before. It is perfectly alright. I feel that's how it should be.

If you get away from the negative connotation that you have associated in your mind about you becoming less trustworthy of people and let your natural instinct at this point in time take over, you will make the right decision my dear.

Lotsa luv,
SS

 

My dear Drjp,

You did it! You handled it smoothly and with great elan! Glad to hear that the visit of your friends was non-controversial. That's exactly what you needed and you got it for yourself!

You are such a thinker! I am amazed at how deep and how balanced you think in spite of what is going on in your life currently. You are bound to emerge a super duper winner at the end of it all! I have not an iota of doubt about it!

Lotsa luv,
SS