shall i tel or not to tel

IMO, you have to tell your hubby in a polite manner. ask him what do you need to do in that situation. make him understand that you don't hate you MIL. I think this would work out well.

 

Dear Rupi
How long have u been married? Just wait for some more time. Try to understand her better. There is no point in telling yr hubby about HIS MOTHER who thinks she loves u. U will definitely know the reason for her behaviour. when everything is clear either u can convince yr hubby abt his mother or yr mil may change her attitude towards u and start loving u really.
Regards
Uma

 

I doubt it would make any difference telling your husband he might not believe
you.Because what he sees is a different side of his mother. He might think you are trying to create differences between them. It would depend on how long you are married and how much your husband trusts you. It is a very delicate situation. I think you need to give it some time.

 

hai
Do the same to her...I mean pretend to be very nice to her in ur husband presence and be normal in his absence. ignore her acts and teach her a lesson. She neither can go and complain to ur husband about it.

 

It wont make a difference. Its always you are the lier. My parents and sister are good you just misunderstand.Even though my in laws and SIL told bad about me in front of my husband too. Still he said these things. With you,it will be a long shot here for your husband to believe.

 

Dont even tell your husband any thing make him realize, if you tell even something, things may go worst and since you are married for 2 years its really difficult for you to fight mentally or verbally with your MIL and husband.

Thats the mistake I did I use to tell my husband every thing what my mother inlaw tell and if i tell her some thing back and he use to tell me dont tell her any thing back you are a good perso so dont speak back. And when things go so worst even thugh if she tell me in front of him he tells its my fault and i am person who dont respect his parents.

so now for silly reasons We end up fighting and not talking to each other for weeks.

so better learn tricks from your mother inlaw and apply same to her.
I bet this will work.

 

Hi, Rupi
Do not get disheartened. I am also in the same boat as you are.Drowning
I initially told each and everything to my DH thinking that he will trust me coz our dating was almost for 5years pre-marriage. To my surprise he never did understand a bit of my pain or furstration.mg:

He never showed any amount of trust on me within these 2 years of our marriage whenever his family members are in picture. I stopped telling him everything as I came to know he is not with me. My MIL too plays a double role. She is sugar coated infront of my hubby and when he is away, she shows her true color. My DH thinks that his mom is another Mother Teresa. Whenever, I told him that his mom not only insulted me, but also my parents. Do you know whats the question I received from my DH instead of an answer?
"Give me a logic why would my mother insult your parents or you?? I have never seen my mom utter a word infront of my dad till now. Then how can she do that to you??"

The fact is my MIL plays double game with my FIL too. She hides almost everything from her hubby and tries to show him (my FIL) that she is the most innocent creature in this world who does not know anything out of her world of kitchen.

So, my advice to you would be to leave it for sometime and try to ignore. DH and his family will never change. So eventhough you ignore certain things try not to become a doormat. Let's see what time gives us...

All the best my friend!!