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  1. beautifullife30

    beautifullife30 Platinum IL'ite

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    Until lets say an year or so ago, I was this calm composed silent crying person who used to feel bad for anything and everything that people said.

    But after spending an year in my native village with my privacy intruded, people talking all nonsense, listening to unwanted unrequited advice, I just lost it. I lost my patience on everyone. I have now come to this stage where I cant take nonsense no matter who dishes it out.

    I am now giving it back to people who are dishing it to me in the first place. I don't care how old they are or how young they are. I no longer have this "need to please" people. I am done with need to please and help others. Now all i want is a peaceful life without anyone's interference.

    Unfortunately that's a tall thing for me to wish for. My own mom keeps telling me that i am no longer the person she knew and that i should learn to be silent and probably a little less rude.

    Basically i am not rude. I give it back to people in the way they give me. How come my mom and my husband don't realise the rudeness that is given to me but notice only the 'rudeness' that comes from me apparently?

    What has changed?
    > I am sharing only what needs to be shared and at my convenience not coz someone demands it or wants it
    > I dont care if you the PM of this country, i am not answerable to anyone for anything. I am leading my life on my own without any external help so if anyone talks BS, i hate it and stop it right there
    > I am done listening to 'well meant' 'free advice'. I dont have money or patience to listen to nonsense advice. If i want one, i would come to you but I dont need any from you I tell them to stop giving them to me.

    Apparently saying all this is now rude. I am rude.

    I am just tired of being a doormat. So what if i am rude. Maybe if rudeness is what brings me my piece of mind then, i am entitled to it. Aren't I?
     
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    beautifullife30 Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks @anika987 . I had a long talk with my husband and i feel better now. :)
     
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    Happy to know
     
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    Hmm true..
     
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    Good posts there @anika987. Thanks for sharing. :)

    Most of the times we are forced to behave rudely/ arrogantly only because the person is crossing their boundaries. How I wish we have subjects in school that taught basic etiquettes in interactions, respecting the other person's opinion, giving people their space, etc. <sigh>
     
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    Good idea actually..
     
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