Roles Of The Parents And The Teachers

The parents and teachers are sculptors/painters shaping the children into a marvelous looking sculpture/painting. They can’t change the ingredients in anyway but can only facilitate the children to become a fine human being. The children’s life is created for its own reason and as their mental development takes place, they will get thoughts that would bring desires to them to fulfill their passions. The parents and teachers can help them identify, explore, and nurture those inherent passions.

Every child is customized to his/her own needs. There is no one plan those fits all in parenting/teaching. The parents and teachers need to learn about their children individually through exploring their passions, emotions, feelings, intellectual, and spiritual capabilities and so forth and so on. They need to find the right resources to help and assist them in their development as a child. While they experience developmental issues, the parents and teachers will have to be available to guide them towards righteousness. The best guidance is to ask them questions that would help them formulate right decisions. They have inherent values in their consciousness and the parents and teachers only can help them reach out to their inner core. Self-fulfilled children stand better chance to become fine human-beings and most importantly remain happy. The children are the results of love and therefore, they automatically radiate love.

During the development, the children will have number of asked/unasked questions in their minds when they see the sufferings in the world. They will naturally compare themselves with other children and try to find answers for deficiencies in them as well. They are natural emotions for developing child, nay, even for developed human beings. The parents and teachers will have to develop enough knowledge to clarify such questions and most importantly, communicate with them well so that the children will learn to open and reach out to their parents and teachers. All of us teach the children how to respect elders but they develop their own method to interact with their peers. Sometimes, they do bring those issues also to the parents and teachers and how the parents/teachers react to those complaints create a strong impression in the children. When to let things go, when to stand up for what is right, when to demand an apology, when to apologize, etc. are learned by the children through those important communications.

All the parents teach their children about their duties, responsibilities, and disciplines they need to put in place at home and when we visit others. But it is imperative to teach the children about duties, responsibilities, and disciplines at school, the community, the nature, and finally to their own consciousness. The parents and teachers will have to inculcate the importance of purity of intention in a way that their inner consciousness become transparent. Inner consciousness becomes transparent only when the children remove their bad qualities such as unreasonable desires, anger, greed, ego, jealousy, attachment, and indifference. It is the children’s attention and commitment to the parents and children that results in their action for character development. The little lamps are already lit to shine and the parents and teachers are facilitating it to shine with added luster. They are already in the path of becoming a fine human being and the parents and teachers have a role to play in this important mission.

Shaping a child is not only important from the point of view of the family, but it is a duty that should be fulfilled keeping in mind the society, nation, and the world. APJ Abdul Kalam when he spoke in the United Nations said: “When there is righteousness in the heart, there is beauty in the character. When there is beauty in the character, there is harmony in the home. When there is harmony in the home, there is order in the nation. When there is order in the nation, there is peace in the world”.

 

A few parents sharing their views irrespective of whether they like this thread or not will help me learn a little bit more. Without interaction, I feel this thread is orphaned. @Anusha2917 and @KashmiriFlower, thank you for your likes. I am tagging a few who are regular in the parenting section. I value every parents' view.

@Rihana, @Laks09, @sanjuruby3, @Thyagarajan, @nuss, @NOW, @SGBV, @anika987

 

@Rihana,

You have quoted the essence of what one experiences when someone write an article about it. One enjoys the processes involved while writing such posts and every thought, every example, and every experience come from the heart.

Very well said. Sometimes, the opportunity may not be right to pursue one's passion right away and it may require little more maturation of the passion and associated opportunity. I was recently watching a Podcast of the founder of Substack and a good business model of helping the writers to find a platform to develop their writing skills and capture paid subscribers, which is different from everything that is offered free. Most importantly, he said this model was not executable in 2006 when he had this idea but became possible over a period of time when he had a writer who helped him create the framework for such a solution.

It is difficult to even teach such skills as we ourselves are vulnerable for so many mistakes when we are overwhelmed with emotions. We learn from our trial and error and I am sure the children sometimes learn from their trial and error. If the parents find them learning those lessons, there is nothing more to be said. if not, the parents should gently ask the questions that will trigger them to learn those lessons.

Even though you thought it was rude initially, you have understood that was a reasonable request. Your realization if shared with the child, she learns the important lessons as to what is reasonable request.

Thank you for sharing a detailed response to this thread.

 

@Laks09,

It is so satisfying to receive 3 mothers responding to this post who have done everything they could to raise their children well.

It is so funny you said that. My wife used to respond to my son whenever he questions her about why she didn't tell something when I was young, "You didn't come with a manual telling me what is malfunctioning in case if something goes wrong".

This is important. We can never be complacent as a parent that I have raised one and hence another one is not going to be hard. Each child is unique and different and we as a parent needs to customize parenting for each child.

You have echoed the same sentiments expressed by @Rihana. You both are so right about it. It is a great balancing act and mostly, as you said rightly, the learn their skills by watching our actions more than what we say. Sometimes, they learn from their own mistakes which teaches them better.

I couldn't agree more. They grow several phases and each phase of their lives are different. As they get exposed to the real world, so many questions arise in their head some unasked and some asked. More they communicate, better we learn about them. Creating that environment for them to easily communicate without fear is important.

Your love for your children will sustain you to lead a long life and help them in when they develop and grow into fine human-beings. Sense of fulfillment you derive will not be limited to one period when they fly high but you will experience it throughout your life time including when you put up those bricks building their character step by step.

 

@SGBV

This post wouldn't be complete without you, Rihana and Laks responding to this post. Each one of you are perfect examples for doing everything you could despite all the challenges.

You said it well. We are facilitators to shape their passion that they came to pursue. It is such a sense of fulfillment when we see them manifest into their full potential. Every bit we contribute is invaluable for them in the long run and create a strong will in their head not only to pursue it but also to encourage their children when they grow up. They emulate their parents.

As children, they struggle to find their passion and it manifest when we closely watch in their thoughts, words and actions. This is where the parents and the teachers play a prominent role to detect, discuss and develop those passions.

Nothing can give a better satisfaction to the children more than their parents encouraging their passions. It will create a right environment for them to excel and achieve their dreams. You are doing everything right to help her pursue her passion.

I remember our days when the parents had a predetermined career for their children based on their assessment of their market for employment. Nowadays, the opportunities are plenty for someone to pursue whatever career they like and even developing their own business. It is hard to even convince the parents to let us go overseas to pursue our career.

I remember that I had to turndown offer from Bank Nationale De Paris because I had to go for training for one year to Paris, Union Carbide and DCM because I had to move to New Delhi from Chennai, One of the Big Four Accounting Firm offer to join in Dubai all at the age of 23. But I never left any of those passions to have a financial career. I worked for a few years in a public-sector company, then in a premier R & D firm, then in a software services company in India before I migrated to the US in 1995. We keep our eyes and ears open always with respect to our career and that is what we need to train our children. I am sure you never left your interest to work for UN and eventually achieved your dream because of your pursuation.