Deal Breakers For You In A Friendship?

I like people who don't pretend or act. Doesn't matter whether they are intelligent or extremely naive or shy. I still like to make friendship with them. I move away from people who pretend like Intelligent people acting innocent, dump acting smart.

 

- Hate Manipulators who twists things as per their own convenience.
- Looking down on people and taking their presence/time for granted.
- Calling up only when need something or a shoulder to share something and disappear when they are needed.

 

1) No equality in the friendship.Sometimes there can be imbalance but not always

2) Treating a friend as a sidekick

3) Dominating

4) No room for proper communication

 

Thanks for directing to that thread. I thought it was boasting of our positives. Lol

 

1. A secret is never a secret if someone else knows it, even if it's best friend. Secret is something that should be confined to oneself. I have not seen a single person capable of keeping a secret except myself. I can trust myself to not tell anyone else somebody's secret. My own secrets, I am learning to keep them to myself, although it's very tough sometimes. Hard to keep something that is eating me away internally but now I am trying to resolve it within myself instead of telling it to others. Very tough.

2. Welcome to this world, people lie all the freaking time and expect that others around them lie in their favor. If you want to cut it off because of the above two reasons, you won't find anyone to make friendship with.

One thing I learnt and have been learning, there is no friendship in which one can confide anything and everything, it ranges from 0 to 90%. Never a 100% when it comes to confiding to someone. There is no "closure" unless the other person is an embodiment of the devil.

 

My list for a good friendship/relationship is larger but in the interest of time, I am summarizing a few I think are important in a friendship/relationship:

1) Trust, respect and ability to listen from each other
2) Adaptability to tune in to be good friends/relatives
3) Unconditional support in times of need and support each other in their goals
4) Fun without the need of substances
5) Sense of security and safety in sharing anything with eah other
6) Communication is open, honest and direct
7) Acceptance of responsibility for the actions
8) Acknowledgement of the need for alone time
9) Willingness to apologize when one commits something wrong