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Being Trolled And Bullied And Personally Attacked On Social Networking

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Needtobestrong, Aug 20, 2021.

  1. Roar

    Roar Gold IL'ite

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    Its easier to do negative things online because you are less accountable...
    You can claim yourself to have a perfect lives and demean others for theirs. In real life it might be the opposite.

    I have stopped taking comments online to face value. These days people in real life itself seldom show the reality of it ( not judging, their life their choice) online cant be further enough from reality.

    If anything makes you happy on the internet, go for it; if not, its not worth your worry really.
     
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    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks for the reassuring reply..
     
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    So true!! Fed is the best…
     
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    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    yes, if a mom is unable to BF , and supplements formula milk to her baby it doesn’t make her any less of a mom..
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    If a mom has the ability to BF and chooses to solely use formula from the start, it doesn't make her any less of a mom.

    It has nothing to do with whether a mom is able to BF or not. As long as the baby is getting the nutrition it needs and growing fine, the rest about the mom's feeding choices is immaterial and none of anybody's business.
     
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    Roar Gold IL'ite

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    Fortunately or unfortunately babies cant take decissions.
    Everyone has a boat to row and whatever floats ..right? upload_2021-8-28_2-16-19.gif
     
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    Truer words were never said.
    I did not breastfeed because I never had adequate supply. After trying every old wives trick and enduring gyan from friends, family and strangers I finally threw in the towel and regained my sanity.
    One of my coworkers was in the middle of a very demanding medical residency when she became unexpectedly pregnant. She got only 4 weeks of maternity leave and chose to do formula from the start because she knew her limitations. Every mom will have her own story. Live and let live.
     
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    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    So much truth.
    The minute you get pregnant, your body and your choices become everyone else’s business.
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    So true.

    Infact every human as their own story.

    This post triggered certain emotions and in all honesty,everyone’s choices are their own as to why they are doing it or not in any matter.

    Not everyone knows our personal story.Hmm..

    These baseless comments and random enquiry occurs coz the other person usually wants to feel a sense of power that they are somehow doing better.Their ego’s need to be satisfied that they are the ones who are doing the right thing.So in the process,they try to destroy the other person’s mental peace and make the other person feel guilty and wrong of their choices.

    By putting down others,no one becomes correct.Everything is need and situation based.

    The world would be nicer place if people can hold their tounge and think and type(in the case of social media),

    As you rightly said, Live and Let live.
     
  10. WannabValerie

    WannabValerie Silver IL'ite

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    I agree @anika987

    When one beleives and knows from their bottom of their heart that whatever they are doing is the best for their babies/ kids because they cabt take them ( like roar said) then there is no need to validate again.

    In 1900s-1960s it was industrial revolution and wars and women needed to be at home for men to work for 12-15hrs... so they glorified home staying because someone needed to bring up those kids when one oartner is serving in war; now its capitalism and income generation and investments are agenda so all 'research' glorifies working women because larger work force is needed and a womens brain thinks different and can contribute fresh resources to work force.
    Oh and the monetory value attached to motherhood has made its way too.

    It seems to be changing in cycles. This cant be the truth because it stays intact over forever? only our mindset is changing in cycles.

    Yes BM is the best food for babies else nature would magically present few free bottles of milk with the baby. It is true.
    However, every baby has a right to nutrition BM or the other way and their mum knows the best.

    This agruement of sahm vs workingwomen is making fool of womenhood. No one can bring you down without your permission and no one can lift you up without your support.

    It all comes to Hs again :smilingimp:... if at all we had given respect to mothering kids and given her respect for taking care of the home and not called her 'moocher' and martyred her to inlaws.... and she beleived in herself...there would be less of these validation requests.

    This working women trend was brought out by the patriarchy, now that women have tasted how it feels to be incharge; they aint going back to sacrificial nurturing mode.

    Although kids need nuturing and its the right thing to do, the person who nurtures is seen useless and weakling by the society and no women wants that.

    Children and the generation will grow up to be different for better or for worse. If society needs people who care for free back, then show resoect and give them their value... else dont whine.
     
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