Are You A Talkative Or A Quiet Person?

I used to be very talkative and easy to make friends, but after few really bad experiences I am limiting myself before easy going with any one, observing more, not sharing too much of personal details and so on!! I am enjoying my own company more than depending on anyone for passing the time.

 

Over the years i have realised one thing that, i am still a work in progress and there is still loads to learn and unlearn about myself....

I love the conversations which invokes thoughts of self discovering. Over the years i feel one question is essential for me before i do anything, what is the purpose....

Sorry for deviating away the from the topic.
Regards
Nandini

 

I have always been a quiet person, and few things i ve noticed over the years...outgoing and talkative people who have more friends and professional connections usually find it easy to get help for any aspect, are happier and in some ways successful in work that requires collaboration with people.
I have always envied talkative people as they’re never alone, always have friends and well wishers to care for them and to hang out with ...of course lot of time and energy was also invested in these friendships.
In my family circle, I.e husband and in laws circle, they always favour and are impressed people who talk very smoothly and sweetly..soft and straight forward people like me are frowned upon.
I wish I could be more talkative and outgoing..over the years I’ve been slowly interacting with more people and getting over my shyness and it has been a pretty good experience in getting to know so many people and exchanging ideas with them...
Actually 2019 was a pretty good year in terms of socialising as I had caught up with few of my good friends , made many friends in my neighbourhood, attended manybfunctions and get togethers of relatives...
Unfortunately Covid has made human interaction a big risk now..in India atleast..I hope pandemic ends soon.

 

Just an observation here.
I was very talkative and loud before and just after marriage. She was more are less reticence and used to speak very softly honey like.
But with passage of years and after begetting children I began to notice the trend getting somewhat reversed. I am in low-key not by coercion and she speaks more often and a tad louder.

Strange are the ways of God or and Goddess.

 

I was an ambivert till college, made few life long school & college friends.
For work I didn't know one has to be outgoing easy do small talk with others, to become popular. In work front I believe one has to do the smart talk & smart work.
Few do small talk no work, few do lots work never talk.
In personal.life it's a choice.. imo be silent observer
I can be an extrovert when it comes to functions, parties, organizing events, because i wanted to help others..
People took me granted in family functions and events which required lots of planning & organizing, no one gave no credit or stole credit. Spent my time, energy, money. No use only leg pain.
I took a back seat now enjoy the ride. Hi - how are you- bye type of a person I became. People think because I read lots of books, I have friends who live in& friends by choice childless. They think I'm new person became more western.
I don't care anymore IL helped me with many things, not to care, ignore things which doesn't matter.
Introvert is best choice when it comes to mental peace. Some people plug & bug extroverts to talk and gather information and later gossip say xyz said. Being talkative aka extrovert may give a feeling that we have attention but from experience it's duh .
People take extrovert for granted.
Nice discussion post @anika987
@nandinimithun yes 'what's the purpose?'

 

This happens in larger groups as well. When teachers need "class participation" from students, the challenge is to manage the enthu-cutlets, as well as draw-out the quiet people to say something.

I am a little on the quieter side. Social networks on the web has made it possible for quiet people to come out and "say" something. Writing and clicking "post" button is a lot easier than talking. Like a quiet person writing a journal, instead of having a friend/relative on the phone to unburden the whatever. Classroom teachers asking students to write one comment down on a Post-It, then go around the class to have the student read what they had written would force the quiets to contribute to the class discussion, while controlling the talkatives to let others have a chance.

Desiderata advises quiet, as well as to let others have a say.