Exactly! 5th point spot on..I have wasted years doing so much for people who don’t deserve so much help..still regret it
My lessons : 1. Do not depend on others for your happiness...like that phone call, birthday wish from a so-called friend etc 2. Analyse every tough situation into controllable and uncontrollable categories and then come up with a plan of action. 3. Analyzing if I'm feeling bad due to some person (it can be intentional or unintentional) or due to a circumstance and then react. 4. Work smart & not work hard. 5. Respect and encourage other women who feel proud of their littlest achievements. 6. Never be a part of any conversation which involves body shaming other women. In family groups, its a gossip chat to discuss other women's weight. 7. Always be hopeful at the end of the day and make a fresh start the next morning. 8. Don't be a superwoman but just my natural self. It is okay to be an imperfect mom. 9.To voice my opinion immediately when I feel hurt in a conversation rather than to wait for the other person to realize or hoping time will heal. I don't give remote control in anybody's hands to gain access over.
Point 9..I know it is true but not able to implement it the right way If I stand up for myself..they silence me saying am too sensitive and transfer the blame. I have struggled for years with family toxicity and now slowly coming out of it.. got out of it in a bad way..am the bad one now but am happy in a way too
I too get the reply that I'm oversensitive but I tell them that's their opinion. I tell them to be mindful from next time. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't but bottom line they remember not to repeat just because of the unwanted gyan I give them. I feel our parents bring us up with so much love and care and some random person shatters that confidence, it takes ages to heal n that too without support, so I'm very careful.
1.Dont do arranged marriages Who are they to decide what rock is good to hit our head to??... Lets choose our own rock..