Lessons You Have Learnt In Life...

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  1. anika987

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    So true..totally agree!
     
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    Such an intelligent and mature reply laks! Well said!
     
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    I am learning a lot from my own thread :D

    Happy to have created it:)
     
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    favorite line! True!
     
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    This holds so true in my case!!
     
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    Exactly!

    5th point spot on..I have wasted years doing so much for people who don’t deserve so much help..still regret it
     
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    My lessons :

    1. Do not depend on others for your happiness...like that phone call, birthday wish from a so-called friend etc

    2. Analyse every tough situation into controllable and uncontrollable categories and then come up with a plan of action.

    3. Analyzing if I'm feeling bad due to some person (it can be intentional or unintentional) or due to a circumstance and then react.

    4. Work smart & not work hard.

    5. Respect and encourage other women who feel proud of their littlest achievements.

    6. Never be a part of any conversation which involves body shaming other women. In family groups, its a gossip chat to discuss other women's weight.

    7. Always be hopeful at the end of the day and make a fresh start the next morning.

    8. Don't be a superwoman but just my natural self. It is okay to be an imperfect mom.

    9.To voice my opinion immediately when I feel hurt in a conversation rather than to wait for the other person to realize or hoping time will heal. I don't give remote control in anybody's hands to gain access over.
     
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    Point 9..I know it is true but not able to implement it the right way:(

    If I stand up for myself..they silence me saying am too sensitive and transfer the blame.

    I have struggled for years with family toxicity and now slowly coming out of it..

    got out of it in a bad way..am the bad one now but am happy in a way too:)
     
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    I too get the reply that I'm oversensitive but I tell them that's their opinion. I tell them to be mindful from next time. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't but bottom line they remember not to repeat just because of the unwanted gyan I give them. I feel our parents bring us up with so much love and care and some random person shatters that confidence, it takes ages to heal n that too without support, so I'm very careful.
     
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    1.Dont do arranged marriages

    Who are they to decide what rock is good to hit our head to??... Lets choose our own rock.. :BangHead:
     
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