Please Guide Me

Dear all,

I know that I made a big havoc when I created a thread about Black magic a few years back. It was my mistake that I did not spell what I meant in my thread earlier. Later it got diverted and the original subject matter remained unresolved.

I, being a modern Christian do not believe in BM or its effect. None in my family or friends circle believe in it either. But we all know, there are people who perform BM and have the evil intention of destructing someone else using this power. Not sure whether they could do what they wanted with the evil, but at least there are intentions, and wrong doers in the name of evil priests in our society.
A lot of money go to the wrong hands as so many people believe in them.
On the other hand, there are people/cheaters in every religion who claim to have super power to cut evil energy. Some appear genuine and doing it for free, no one knows how true their super power is, and how it works.

I know, nothing of this kind is scientifically proven, but for science God and faith is only a superstition. Some say, just as holy energy, there are evil energies too. Nevertheless, I, being a self made person always believes none of these good or bad energies impact me unless I let them take over my life. But I also know, not everyone is like me. There are enormous weak souls, uneducated fellows who lose their life in the course of BM in many developing countries.

Having said that, my MIL is someone who sincerely believes in BM and does that to destroy others with the help of a priest living in her home town. She spends a lot of money for BM matters, either to destruct others or to self guard herself/family from other's evil motives.
Not sure how she is connected to this. In fact, she doesn't reveal the fact that she is into this. But her mysterious way of working would tell you what she is upto.

Unfortunately everyone in her family believes she does what suits them. They believe her poojas, visits to pandit and doing all kinds of parikarams in relation to BM is normal, and that's what keeps them alive.
Although they don't accept that she can be evil by doing BM against others, they still think it is OK to do so as long as the other person is bad. Because according to them, everyone does this. If MIL doesn't act, they will do BM to harm her family. So, as a cycle it gets repeated and it is heart breaking to know this family believes in this despite of their education and qualifications.

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I had problems with my PILs since marriage. Hope many of you know my tale with them in the past decade. It was horrible beyond everyone's imagination.
One single eg: MIL forced me to drink a special drink daily when I carried my first baby, which I suspected and refused. But once in a while, due to her force and my H's compulsion I had to give in and drink that. Later, I got to know she mixed some herbals to abort my first child. After 7th month, my pregnancy became high risk, but God's grace delivered a healthy child who is 10 years old now.
This is just one incident out of many many similar life threatening ones with her. The issue is, my H believes in her, and thinks she must be right even if that means killing his own child.
Those days, he defended that child was a curse to our family; hence she would have done that. Now a days he defends her, it was her mistake due to her poor literacy and awareness. Whatever it is, he trusts his mom is genuine, but despite of her actions I can't say she is genuine in any ways.

2 years back, I caught them red handed when they did BM against us. They appeared in our CCTV image during one odd night around 2 am. That too, they dug inside our compound and put something inside secretly without telling us.
Later we found out they spend Rs 75000 to get some evil stuff from the North & the guy who supported them to get these evil stuff revealed everything to us without knowing they were related to us.
After that, we bought a catholic priest (who came from India) and he claimed there was evil power and he removed it.
Although everything happened was like a movie, I witnessed all and reacted this time boldly.

Again I repeat, I do not believe in BM. But I doubt their genuineness here. I caught them red handed doing something against us at our place without our knowledge. I know that they could do to any extreme to harm us.
Since then, I gave my H an ultimatum. Either cut ties with them completely and live with us or go live with them and leave us in peace. He chose the former and with us since then.

But he regrets his decisions all the time, and that kinda makes me feel guilt. Sometimes, my brother says, why would I react this harsh when I don't believe on BM. But for me, a person who attempted to kill and harm her own child and family (through whatever ways), should remain as our enemy only. We can never trust her, and she can even poison us or harm us through other means. Who knows.
As a working mom who seldom spend time at home, I had my reservations too.

Nevertheless, last month I revisited my decision and sat with my H to come up with a new one. We decided to invite PILs here and re-start everything from the scratch.
In fact, I posted a thread in IL and our lites suggested the same too.
We have already invited BILs family and FIL once came here as well.

Yesterday, my H made a weird sound from our upstairs at night. When I rushed there, he seemed shaking with fear and was unable to speak but started running towards the corner as if I was a ghost trying to kill him.
I have never seen my H was this fragile or weak in life before. He was never emotionally strong in the past, but very strong physically and fearless. He is a 40 year old handsome man with 6 packs, so his actions seemed confusing.

I calmed him down that night, and later the next day we sat together and he opened up.
He said, he was told by one of his trusted priest from somewhere that some BM was done against him and it was his parents, and he brought that priest to remove it when I & kids were away last week.
But since that incident, he was living in denial, and in disbelief that his parents could do something as such against him.
He fears the effect and in confusion. So that night, all of a sudden when some sound came he reacted that way. Poor him

So, I helped him figure out certain things and repeatedly told him what I felt about his parents and what I knew.
We later removed the stuff that were presented by his folks, including some idols and yantrams, threads which every Hindu follower has, but in a way they seemed odd with weird pictures in it.
He has been asked to do certain poojas which normal Hindu families don't do. Certain practices like praying during middle of the night, having red threads for oil lamps etc...
Bear with my poor knowledge of Hinduism, but I see the practices were different from what my Hindu friends do.

Since that revealing my H seems afraid, and he agrees with me that he won't mingle with PILs hereafter. He attributes all his failures, the marital issues, family problems etc.. are because of this, but still unable to accept his mom could do this to him.

He wants me to help, but I don't know how without getting angry on him.... I know he needs support, but all these sound rubbish to me.

How can I start helping him.... psychologically, building him up and saving him in any case BM is there....

I am already busy with 2 jobs, (one full time and one business) and kids, older mom, health issues etc... with limited to zero support from H (he is not employed). Now that, this became another headache. Plz help

 

Thanks everyone. I understand your points about taking my H to therapy.
I doubt whether it is easy or not. But definitely i should give it a try.

Poor guy... In fact, I shouted at him, brought up all the past drama upon hearing BM story once again.
I clearly told him to cut ties, not because I & kids are affected, but because of his mental health & sanity.
Leave alone BM.. The more he interacts with them, the more he suffers bad luck, disappointment and marital issues. This is evident, not because of BM. But they brain wash him so much that he convincingly chooses the wrong path.
Eg: I made him clear a special United Nations examination which wasn't easy otherwise. So much efforts were put on clearing the exam & practical works in the past year.
I was hopeful that he gets a job as he desires after all. We were even calculating the financial benefits & hoping to relieve from EMIs sooner.
Then one fine day he was guilt of not interacting with his FOO & made me feel guilt about that by saying their age & health issues. The softer self in me made the wrong decision by allowing him to travel with his dad for a full day to their native place.
The next day he had different plans about the job. He seemed uninterested & communicated to the selection committee about his nonavailability before even they offer him the post.
That too, behind my back.
Later, he convinced me by saying his discomfort & fear about accepting the job. He highly suspected it as a trap & I could not convince him after that.
I knew it was his dad who changed his mind. But this time i am more angry on his than on his dad.

Knowing our family's financial needs & the job market well, how come this man brush off such an exciting offer? That too, when he's been jobless for a long time & suffering the side effects of having no financial independence since then.

Now that, I understand the 'connection' he has with his folks. It is something fishy and i definitely worry about this now.

I should have been more patient with him, as it seems he is clearly in pain & shock. He sees nothing, hears nothing, but vaguely remember bits & pieces of what we went through.

I am a believer in God. I chose to leave everything on to God hereafter.

As someone said, I doubt whether my H realises this problem & the intention of his parents at least now. If not, what is the point of worrying?