(a)social Distancing

Metamorphic · Jan 12, 2021

@Balajee

The moment I read the first few lines, I instantly got connected and felt so very related to all that is expressed in there...

Very comforting to know I am not the only one like what you described. (It’s OK even if it sounds like I am feeling happy for the post for all wrong reasons ... )

Absolutely loved the post.

Balajee · Jan 12, 2021

Viswamitra said: ↑

Dear Balajee,

Very well written snippet. I am really happy to hear that you are not for an extravaganza of high fly wedding ceremonies. What a waste of time, money, energy, and all other resources. Quality of social interaction is much better one on one. How many bride's and groom's families were able to invite and enjoy the event with their friends and relatives? It is the greatest source of stress for both families and even the guests will find 100 reasons why the weddings were not up to the mark. It is unfortunate, we have a culture that if a family doesn't invite a family for their daughter's or son's wedding, it is considered an insult. In fact, one must be happy that he or she has one less thing to do. It is best if the weddings are performed at home in close family circles and registered and if required, have one reception to announce the wedding.

Coronavirus brought some interesting wedding ceremonies. A family known to us performed the wedding at home and set up a Zoom and YouTube channel for all the relatives to see the wedding ceremony from the comfort of their respective homes. This should become a routine even after we get out of Coronavirus. I am okay with social interactions provided they produce the best results instead of spending weeks and months to set right the relationships because of something one said during those casual conversations. When I met Sam Pitroda in 1990s as the Advisor to the Prime Minister of India, he said, "we have a tendency to get hurt quickly. We should avoid that tendency to make our relationships work. We should avoid unnecessary formalities and speak our mind in a harmless manner." Those words are still ringing in my ears always. Wedding is a great source of so much confusion and misunderstanding. Either the attitude of people should change or such unnecessary gathering should be avoided. If those weddings are essential to demonstrate their wealth, at least, one should practice silence as suggested by @satchitananda. I realize that social get-together is intended to converse (not to remain silent) but those conversations invariably result in misunderstanding.
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Viswa marriages haved a psychosomatic impacts on the parents and immediate family of the couple, An aunt of mine suffered severe blood pressure and hypedrglycemia before her daughter's marriage but he condition became normal once her daughter departed for her hysband's place. "Keep it simple stupid" is a universal maxim but it applies particularly to Indian marriages . Wow marriages attended through Zoom You save money on lot of things including a lavish banquet. As in my case, lookas like it has been a blessing for many others too.

Balajee · Jan 17, 2021

Metamorphic said: ↑

@Balajee

The moment I read the first few lines, I instantly got connected and felt so very related to all that is expressed in there...
Right or wrong reasons, I am glad you liked it.

Very comforting to know I am not the only one like what you described. (It’s OK even if it sounds like I am feeling happy for the post for all wrong reasons ... )

Absolutely loved the post.
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