Do People “really” Have Clean Homes All The Time??

This! 100%

 

A place filled with life, light, love, and laughter! So true!

 

Agreed

 

Your vent will wane on my mention. I am that someone who demands a month's notice from visitors to tidy up her place. Exigent cases will be considered at a week's notice to visit my place. Even the urgent fly-by visits below that threshold will be locked out. Tu kaisi bhi hai, kahan bhi hai, feel triumphant over an under-performing Novalis who ranks below you in good housekeeping.

 

A lot of these things I so relate to it exactly and think the same way.
Btw your frustration and vent made me smile your writing was free flowing similar to how these thoughts run in my mind . How many times I think I shouldnt have married and lived a free life ..its too late now

its the same situation at my house too. husband would stop doing any house work if he finds i have time to do it . i used to ask , nag , complain , taunt etc but it definitely didnt help me. then i stopped doing any thing extra , laundry is lying unfolded for almost a month now ...you take from the pile , you replenish back to it after laundry is done. only does very basic cleaning and would wait for aslong as it takes for him to clean the bathroom. will bring the laundry basket to the machine looking at which he offers help loading it . regarding dishes ..its usually less for me but i dont know how and why he would wash his plates and glasses if sink is empty or sometimes even if its not . i see it , but ignore . I'd let him prepare his coffee tea etc. cook only once for the day . i will only pick up toys after baby once or max twice sometimes other wise i will let the mess be . then he will clean up baby items atleast once during the day. he is like as long as you dont push him to do anything he is fine even if the things are left undone , he will not nag you as long as you dont ask him to do it . so i silently started leaving chores that i cant and minimized my work to a great extent . its been days gas is not used for anything else other than tea coffee milk . all cooking in ips only . i started venting now when everyone is at home and your work load has increased try to see if you can change few things here and there, make some amendments to your schedule , ignore and compromise on a few temporarily to give you some relaxed time .
just wanted to say dont bother a lot about these things if possible . ignore as much as you can the golden advice when i see around i always feel irrespective of whether you are working or not women always end up doing more of the chores .
ofcourse none of these things could be possible in the presence of MIL ..she makes a big scene if her son gets up to do anything and he wont do it either . so this continues for as long as it can .

 

Dear sister @anika987,
On the part of wife, it is force of habit to think to clean and keep things in apple pie order. But children find disarray is more harmony. Husbands’ universe utilise every available leisure to pursue their interest or whatever they keep close to their heart.
Some men, participate wholeheartedly with their spouse only during weekends, or once in a blue moon in the project of upkeep of the house. Some couple insist only few areas always kept spick and span.
Few husbands would be annoyed in the heart of heart when spouse demands alongside he be sweeping & swabbing the floor, kitchen sink, WC, Bathrooms but pretend as if they are available at her beck and call.
Some shrewed hubbys, to avoid confrontation, would simply say “yes - yes” but would never shift from their couch or bed to begin or join the cleaning drive.

• Once my boy, returned from outdoor work and hurriedly went to his room upstairs and came back to ground floor hall in chaotic manner demanding to know who had cleaned his room wiping the dirt from his table. Our domestic help Shanthi tuned nervous, softly said, she did the cleaning and set right his room. He fumed, “oh my God, in the dirt settled on table, I wrote an important telephone number. How to get it now?”

Marriage and the upkeep of home & hearth it is all team work - who said this?

Thanks and Regards.

 

This is me too. I make sure I clean the areas I use regularly - Kitchen, living and office space, and let go others. My kid is 8, and I make her clean what she played or done thru the house. Believe me it is a lot, but I am constantly behind her to get that done. As for DH, i have to argue with him every time to put his keys and wallet away.
You are not alone, Anika. This week, I am behind
- putting away the laundry. They are folded, but sitting in our living room, because no one wants to put it away.
- kitchen floor and the hardwood floor cleaning, I can see the smudges, and it is driving me crazy.
- All the sinks and bathtubs
- yard work, never got around to do it.
- My car is a mess, but since I will not be going out for next month, i dont bother cleaning it this week. I don't dare to look inside DH's car, as I know the situation and I am planning to blackmail him to do both cars when the weather gets better.
- Garage situation is not too bad, because I am trying to remove or put away one thing when I am there. This helped me to clean up some areas. Still a long way to go.

i used to have cleaner house before the covid situation, because we used home less. I am cooking only once a day, but kitchen gets messy, I do dishes only in the evening.

So you are not alone!

 

I share the same feeling exhausted from trying to manage everything at home. Past one month felt like a condensed version of my 15 years relation with husband. Yes, staying single is the best option!!!

 

So true! it is recap of married life so far!
Global Pandemic and my married life!- makes a good title for a blog, of course anonymous