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Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by anika987, Jan 2, 2020.

  1. armummy

    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    I understand , please check out per hour expense first for daycare. Try school care first though it is unlikely they may have vacant spots.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Really Anika, Even I want to yell at you.
    You need to go for a job only if you want.
    He cannot spoil his career for your 2 day job
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Tell her you can do it for a pay
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    You are talking just like my husband..just joking.Even he said the same thing!exact same words!!!!OMG!He said”Only if you want for yourself,you should go.I can’t spoil my career for your two day job”

    Honestly..it all boils down to money..
    If I was in a high job..with the salary one need not worry much about aftercares or nanny help and other things..That’s the honest truth.I can’t help myself from regretting the fact I did not work hard and get a higher paid job..Then none of this would have mattered.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    True
    This is what I have understood from all your previous posts.
    You are happy with your life and dont want a job
    Since friends and relatives make you feel inferior, you want to work
    Am I right??
    Your husband knows this .That's why he is getting angry
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    can you provide numbers on how much it will cost for extended care vs how much you can make ?
    What activities does your daughter does on those two days ?
    More information on actual problem will be better than complaining about husband and neighbor who are anyway not going to be part of solution
     
  7. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    Hmm yes...I agree.

    But also,honestly I don’t mind taking up a job if it works within our life.However,the job thing is not a priority which I agree.

    However..everyone around me is a working women and on and off bouts of feeling low occurs.It is tough when am a party or when questioned..
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    My daughter does music class and takewando on the days.
    Music class teacher does not have classes on weekends or any other day.

    Takewando I need to call and try.

    school before fees-$180 per month
    After fees - $ 210 per month

    the above is for 1-3 days

    so my salary is $10 *16 hours - $160 per week.
    Per month is $160 * 4 - $640

    and after takes lets say I can get $500- am assumption

    let’s say before and aftercare together is $300 per month.

    So at hand I will get $200 after everything as salary.

    The above is not working for my hubby.He is saying apart from that the commute,gas and other stuff is not even worth it.he is asking me to wait till they grow up.
    What will change if they grow up?I don’t know..so fight happened
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    One more reason for my job search?

    I was a below average student..
    You see..I was a topper until elementary school and loved by my teachers.After that,we had severe family issues and it it took a toll with my emotional health and I could not concentrate.Life changed upside down..I was severely bullied by teachers and students,relatives.

    I wanted to prove I am also worth.

    My one cousin is not working but since she had excelled in school/college..everyone feels she really is not working coz family is her priority and puts her on a pedestal.

    With me..its always disdain.am going to be 40,but still they treat me so bad holding my past and also letting me not forget it.They keep saying am not working coz am dumb and lazy.

    just wrote the above with a flow and not related much.Sorry to digress
     
  10. Agathinai

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    It’s frustrating but your husband is right. Unless the job has a good scope for growth later on in life for your career, the amount you’re going to save makes the job look lack lustre. We can say job satisfaction and for others, but end of the game it’s how much you save from it or how much can it help in career growth.

    If you are keen go for part time certification course. That’s possibly going to help in your long term job prospects. Something liked child care, aged care certificate course will be good for wives with young kids. Child care is what many working parents look for and that has job security for a long time as long as you are able to do. Think along these lines.

    On the end note, don’t work for others, work for your satisfaction which does include remuneration and for your family’s future benefits. Good luck.
     
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