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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by shama146, Sep 21, 2019.

  1. Amulet

    Amulet IL Hall of Fame

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    Getting a date at a family court is the first step. When the parties are cooperating, and neither party had hired a "postponement lawyer" to thwart the proceedings, it will take a few years; but if one of the parties is unwilling s/he can stretch it out to more than a decade to final judgement.

    One divorce lawyer relative once told me that there are thousands of cases in queue at the various family courts in the state of TN and only recently (about 10 years ago) they had decided to work on Saturdays. However, since that time, the case load had gone up by a huge amount, while the resources (the bottleneck is the time available for the courts) are really limited.
     
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    Disturbing video.

    If only society starts respecting women as they are without being judgemental towards their divorced/separated/single status, many women facing abuse will come out of the abusive relationships and live with security and dignity and will also be able to raise their kids head high. Many women (educated or not), live in abusive relationships because they are convinced that society is more scarier that the guy they married. They kind of live with the known devil, esp. when kids are involved, rather than taking the tough road of divorce. However, some women did leave abusive relationships and took some courageous paths and moved on in life. Not all can do that. I pity the woman & kids in the video .. More strength to her!
     
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    Reconcile what?, the misery that she is used to?

    That 3 year old knew :( what was happening. The tiny person felt bad that the mother is going to get beaten wanted to go to her and hug and cry....

    These fu*cking sh*t heads are a shame to human and whole animal kingdom, they are monsters. I am feeling so sad and hopless and angry.
    These ill sociopaths are roaming freely... and the victim mentalities willingly bleeding dry to feed their egos. Where are we going :(.
     
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    This almost makes it sound like - there has to be a recourse for the man and his parents in the 'situation'!! and what they did on video was possibly an option
    I am sure you dint mean it like that - but its a gut punch to read. Maybe rephrase it?
     
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    Something needs to be done here - because education and economic independence is clearly not cutting it.
    Any thoughts/ideas on how to bring about a change in India?
     
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    there is only unused education in this particular case and no economic independence ...

    I still feel education and economic independence is the key .... it will give some courage for the girl to step out of this kind of situation.....

    I heard the girl , her mother and father all repeating only one thing ... we want the guy back .... pathetic ...

    the mom is asking all the powerful people Like CM and other dignitaries who attended the wedding to ensure the marriage is maintained ..... she says she has no intention of keeping the daughter home ....

    Girl says all I want is him to come and make a home with her ....for the sake of children ...

    All the women’s rights people who are assisting her also want to try for reconciliation ....

    may be parents needs to be more courageous and sympathetic to daughter .... the torture she described in the interview is very bad and still these parents sent her back again and again to get abused more and now also ready to send her back to him...

    I don’t know why they cannot think of getting child support and help daughter rebuild her life ....

    I actually got angry listening to them ....

    it is mother and father of girls to have guts and be supportive to their child and have the girl get into a job before getting her married ....
     
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    If abused women and mothers can get a TATKAL (fast-tracked) divorce with a financial settlement, many would go for that. It is the slow process that enervates all the vested parties -- the married individuals, two sets of parents, and NGO's who stand for various rights issues. None of this back-to-the-drudge talk of reconciliation with the abusing family would arise if there'd been a fast tracked divorce available.

    For cases where reconciliation is indeed feasible, and desired, it may take the form of a remarriage of the previously tatkal-divorced couples. Nothing like an actual divorced life (with whatever pro's and con's of that) to focus those vested hearts and minds.
     
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    Very pathetic situation.
    Poor girl. Look like the parents are also abusing her emotionally. Giving her the message that after marriage they dont have any responsibility. They don't want a divorced daughter. They dont mind evenif she is abused or killed.

    Read that the girl went back to her parents home home many times, but they send her back. She is not working. So not financially independent. It take time for a victim of abuse to gain back her self esteem and confidence. Instead of supporting her, they are trying to save her hopeless marriage. Dont know what to say. If rich and powerful people do this way, what will the the state of other people. Poor girl, she dont have loving parents or loving husband and no where to go. Only option is to be strong and lead a life by herself, but that's a distant dream due to the emotional blackmailing of parents. They dont deserve to called as parents. They are behaving as if the girl is incapable of leading a marriage with the so called husband and problem is with her. Victim shaming again and again.
     
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    Here the girls family is likely to drag the divorce case ...

    the guy filed for Divorce and girls family is Not Ready to give divorce .... with all the videos if they want they can get good settlement and get divorce and still pursue all the other cases against them .... this is my opinion not sure if there are any legal hurdles to pursue dowry harassment case even after the divorce ....
     
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    In this case the woman's parents need to be jailed. If in laws physically abused her then parents have emotionally abused.

    Yes the woman needs to be counselled to fight for herself, against her in laws and husband and the parents.
     
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