Is my behaviour correct ??

Hi Golden,
I can very well understand what you are going through.
My son is 2 and half years old and I am a working Mom.

Thankfully, i am staying with my parents who are taking care of him when i am away. And as usual, pampering from grandparents has made him a little stubborn.
though initially his tactics were only to my mom, recently he has been showing his stubborness to me too.
Like rolling over the floor until i come and pick him. But when i calmly talk to him, he does understand and gets up on his own and comes to me. but sometimes when i am back from office and he does so much of fussing..i really get pissed off and lose my patience.
These days i am trying my best to keep my temper down cause , kids are really smart these days and smart enough to replicate what we parents do!

And what u are going through is just what every mom goes through! nothing to worry...but let this not continue!!
Constanlty keep thinking how ur temper will affect your kid...so take a deep breath next time your kid does something swanky and look at her and just think "she is just learning" and this will drive away your anger!!

But i do understand that not all time we have the patience to think and act! but after all being a mom is not that easy!
and cheers to motherhood! the best phase of our life!!
Happy Parenting !!

Luv,
Jaya

 

Hi Golden,
You might want to look at this - much of the discussion is very relevant to toddlers.

Vanathi.

 

Hi Golden,

I typed a looong response to your question but my internet connection failed and i lost all that i typed I'm redirecting you to the same link as Vanathi has mentioned http://www.indusladies.com/forums/infants/34469-how-do-you-reinforce-good.html

We discuss similar issues and you'll get lots of tips. I think you are only overwhelmed with handling a soon to be 'troublesome two' kid. It's very natural and every parent must go through this phase. Patience is the key and try to first segment what are not at all accepted behaviour and what can be just ignored. This is will help you a lot in controlling your temper as well.

From my own difficult experiences with my boy i realised that restricting a child on every thing only makes them more aggressive. If she likes spilling water, for example, tell her she can do that in the bathroom and not anywhere else because she might skid and hurt herself. Insist that she'll pick up any toys that she throws. All these will not work over night but i assure you that these tips have worked very well for my boy (he's now 3.5 years old)

And don't worry.. it's only natural, we're also humans, to loose temper. But we must only remember to correct ourselves and make things better the next time. After all the child learns most from observing it's own parents. If we keep that in mind we'll be very careful with our own behaviour as well.

Latha