What To Do

What is bothering you that you have to vent about everyday ? Sometimes even the smallest things can irritate terribly while one can sail through the big problems with a smile. So it really depends.
I am not sure but I think you do not have kids yet. There will be lots more to vent when that happens. ( ranges from kid A hasn’t pooped today to kid B has wet the bed again ). So leave the venting for later.
Come home and play some good music to elevate your mood. Once you step outside your office leave all the thoughts about work behind. I normally would end my work day planning what I would cook for dinner and which movie I would watch after that.

 

Forget everything. Offer him water. Look at him and tell him how much you missed him the whole day. Then ask him how his day was. Then just sit quitely and feel his presence. After sometime tell him something that you want to but dont just start take the issues one by one and check his mood every time. Keep yourself busy with things that does not need his involvement.

 

You cannot bottle up emotions at the end of the day. Getting it out of our system is necessary.

Most men (or the husbands) know 'how to tune out' when someone is rattling to them or know
the cue - buzz words to carry out the conversation well! It's no big deal, it is better than silence
or just the clinking of dishes at home.

Alternatively, write a journal - few sentences daily what do you like to share.

 

This is so cute. I want to steal this and add it to my "sweet nothings" collection.
This would work as a great compliment for a sweet dH.

 

Being a guy, I can tell you, guys don't really dislike nonstop talking wives. in fact, when you tell every little detail, it makes us feel nice in way that you do care so about us. However, the problem is, you expect the same thing in return, which won't work out well, because, most of the things don't register in men's head from routine life.

Don't feel guilty about your volubility, instead ask your H, if you really went overboard right away. Ask him lovingly, if it stresses him further when you complain about things. if you know he has his own bigger problems in life that he is dealing with, you could ask him, what is he thinking about xyz, does that worry him etc. We love it when wives genuinely inquire about things that worry us.

It is easy to balance out, if you get real time feedback from your husband than the folks here.

Alternately, learn a about his favorite sport, sports person, ask a bit detailed question or comment about it. Your husband will end up feeling guilty of speaking too much.