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Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by ChennaiExpress, Sep 10, 2018.

  1. troubledmom

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    Ok 2 threads ago you asked me what to do. I thought about it. You have 2 options as I see it.
     
  2. troubledmom

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    If you can’t move out right now, then don’t. It is more important you first understand the issues at stake here. Then you can decide what to do.

    Does your work offer health insurance. Can you get some subsidized rates if you go to a family therapist? If so go to a good one ASAP. Take a print out of all the threads you have started here and go over them with her. They will serve as a good journal diary - and go back years and years if I am not mistaken
     
  3. troubledmom

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    Then when you are strong enough, Move out. Ask your dad for a loan to tide you over. I think he will give you the money.
     
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  5. troubledmom

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    Good luck!

    Stop trying to put a bandaid on a fracture.
     
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  6. ChennaiExpress

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    Ok, it seems you are more worked up over this situation than anyone.

    I know there is deep-seeded hurt. I'm just trying to be supportive and get along best I can. I know she will never change, but let me at least create peace of mind within myself.
     
  7. troubledmom

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    Lol, You said that earlier too. I am not ‘worked up’ nor am I ‘fired up’ about this or that. Really.
    I think you say it because what I suggest scares you or you are not ready for it. That’s ok. Think about it and do it only when you are ready.
    The therapist will help you understand and that will help you deal with this situation effectively and get peace of mind.

    And No Chennai going to a therapist for help does not mean you are being disrespectful or disloyal to your parents.
     
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    What you are saying is not much different than what others are saying. So, what you are telling me is not scaring me.

    If you say you are not worked up, then ok, you are not worked up.

    All the best!
     
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  9. troubledmom

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    Chennai,

    I post in bits and pieces when I am on my phone. I don’t want to risk losing the entire or retyping. Does not mean I am overcome with emotion or hyperventilating or whatever else you thought. Lol

    Thank you for your wishes regarding resolving my problems. I wish you the same.

    Yes. This is indeed worthy point. I thought you are struggling with your problems and felt bad and genuinely wanted to offer a solution. but on both threads your immediate response was a complete lack of surprise and questioning instead why I am worked up etc. it seems you already know what to do but you like to post here anyway. Ok got the message. Will not trouble you anymore.
     
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    Thank you
     
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