What Traits Make People Naturally Likeable Or Highly Popular?

Good listening.
When you are talking to me and I am thinking of what to say next, my eyes will let you know that I am not with you. You will dislike me from that moment on.

Focusing on the person talking, and listening. Really listening... looking at the person eye to eye.; waiting for the person to finish, asking questions without being or even sounding remotely judgmental, or putting them down.

Basically, good listening, leads to building a trust that they will be treated with dignity and respect.

It is that trustworthiness that makes one likable.

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As for online interactions... I am not sure what the traits are

It is difficult to read a statement in the same tone as the writer intends.
I have misunderstood many posters intentions as I had read it in the wrong tone. Despite many apologies later I could never heal that scar of the initial damage I had done.

 

A person with healthy self esteem, positive attitude , good humour sense, good dressing sense is liked by all and will be a charismatic personality.

 

I have seen some people who ar more likeable inspite of their flaws which only the close friend knows are..

1: The person's cheerful face...never ever the emotions would reflect on the face.
2: Come what may...the smile never fades..which is actually deceiving...
I did like these traits in that person.

some people are liked because of their helping nature and their talktive nature and also the positive attitude towards life inspite of the tough situations they face.

 

I pondered about the question differently and laterally quite out of box. Like it or not, I am writing it down.
2. the question of liking a person because of their (special) traits or qualities only when we do not suffer from splitting headache, chronic stomach problem or especially when we are terribly hungry and the feast is ready.
3. However or and whatever the trait be and howsoever it is great, you can not instantly like one on empty stomach.
4. the foremost requirement before liking or disliking him or her is that one should be in happy disposition or extremely sad and when the other empathise. A person may like instantly someone and the very same person dislike him for ever. instant liking a person dies instantly after familiarity because the latter breeds attempts!
5. all other possible traits my fellow members have discussed above are indisputable though.
Thanks and regards.
God Bless.

 

In addition to the above traits, for me it has to be how genuine one is in both speech and actions . They are confident in their own skin and don't put up an image. When they smile or talk, it radiates some spark and positive vibes across and instantly we gravitate towards them. Nobody likes a person who comes across as phony no matter how witty or rich they are.
Then are people with whom we find a certain connection not because of their looks or wit but because we feel we have something in common and we can laugh together.
Also, some have this unique ability to laugh at themselves which is a rare , in fact almost unheard of , trait and that's something I really appreciate.

 

beauty, brains, attitude, temperament

 

Thanks @Naari
Your words made me feel good.
I do enjoy good camaraderie with a lot of folks on IL; you too
Yes, life has taught me to nurture those who are with me and not worry much about those who are not.

 

I think it's humility that attracts people more than anything else..