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My Life Journey With My Special Kid!

Discussion in 'Schoolgoers & Teens' started by Swethasri, Feb 25, 2014.

  1. Sunshine04

    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Yes.its timeq
     
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    Ur assertive behavior requires a salute. I salute you .
     
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    Thank you Sindhu. Thanks for reading my story:)
     
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    Hello dearies!! How are you all doing? Things are going smooth here with my Boy. He is growing big you know.... school is going to start and my Boy is going to 6th grade!!!!! A big change for Him. Getting much better with daily living activities, understanding got much better. He is riding his bike very well still long way to go but still pedaling got much better. Strong Boy:)
     
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    so so happy for you @Swethasri and your young man. 6th grade yay and cycling he has come a long way. god bless him. a loving,understanding and caring parent can make the impossible possible.. loads of love to the hero
     
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    So happy to hear ur updates.
    Mine is going to 7t grade. This summer she went to camp too
     
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    yay to all the special angels who show the world abhi yeh trailer hai.. picture baaki hai..

    mine in 2nd yr ug and hostel too..

    there is hope that is shining bright.
     
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    I felt so humbled reading your post OP. Hats off to your dedication and patience. My son has been diagnosed with Autism. I love him to bits but the disorder takes its toll on me. Like you, I lost those precious 9 months of pregnancy in fighting and arguing, much of the problems created by mother. She broke my home. My father supported my mother.
    However, I am in a new dilemma. My parents look down upon my son because he has autism. He is high functioning but has his own social challenges and he is mostly inappropriate in social situations. He does well academically. On one situation I was explaining how well he was responding to ABA therapy and my dad dismissed it saying dogs are trained that way and everyone in the room started laughing. I felt so embarrassed.
    He is a smart boy with very good math and reading abilities but my parents try to classify him as low functioning who is worth nothing. They were forcing me to leave him in a school that takes low functioning kids.
    My sister is a doctor who referred me to specialist in bangalore, that specialist assessed my son and told my son would lead near normal life since he has mild autism but no intellectual disability, to that my father and mother replied he has no environmental touch how can he lead a normal life. They smirked at me and my son.
    Whenever my son shows those awkward social behaviors and gets rejected by peers, I break down but my mother smiles and says I am facing my karma.
    I have struggled raising him here in US and holding a job. I cannot keep him in regular daycare because some son of a bitch thinks it is cool to bully him and my son escalates over the bullying. I asked my parents to come care for him and offered to cover all expenses, my mother furtively told me I am trying to save money by making my old parents work. She also spread the rumors that I and my husband may not be earning well so we are trying to save money at their expense.

    Any way coming to the point, Now my sisters PILs went to Australia for a year to help their other son. My parents want to even off in bragging rights with them and my father is coming to USA and staying with us. I am feeling very nervous around handling his visit. I am almost on the verge of PTSD handling my son's extreme behaviors and what if he has a flare when my father comes? Will my father tell all that to my relatives in India? My mother will call my father every 2 minutes and keep checking how things are here. They are all very judgemental about my son. I just want them to leave him alone.
     
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    I feel it is very important to protect your child from such negative elements like your parents. They are really bad parents n even worser grandparents.

    Regarding the bullying in the day care, was it done by another child or an adult. Either change the day care (some center with live video feed would be good) or address the issue n sort it.

    I think your negative parents will not let your child be anything more than 'lie down in that corner' kinda situation. He doesn't need that energy, insults, smirks, discouragements, etc.

    If the visit is gona create chaos n cause you, your spouse n your child only pain, You should blatantly say I can't afford your visit in terms of money or time or energy as all of that is being focused on the child that needs it. Go to your other daughter in Australia n help their child, leave my family alone. Sometimes it's important to stand up n be vocal. No point putting the whole family through misery for their bragging rights.

    Stay strong for your child n prioritise the people in your life. N protect them with everything you got.
     
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    Hhugs to you.
    You have lots of strength in you.
    I think ur parents are being cruel to you and ur kid.
    Tell ur father directly that he is not invited
     
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