Feeling Very Depressed And Need Advice

Op....prepare well for the visit.
Collect some good music,get some good books to read.
Be prepared to let go of husband for most times without getting emotional.

Make a list of chores and check out how you will do them most efficiently .Make a list of food items that you can make without straining yourself too much . Get ready made mixtures etc. Get ready made deserts.

Spend most of the time on weekends doing these chores and enjoying your books and music during rest breaks.

Make a list of visit sites. Discuss before hand with husband which ones you will be able to visit.
Make a budget for the amount you people can spend without breaking the bank .

Give yourself some healing time after they leave.

Later on you can bargain for having less of these visits.
Bargain for spending more times with your parents during India visits.
These are advantages of having in laws who don't care for you .

 

From your post, i can only gather you have a gem of a husband, many women would pray to have such husband. Most in-laws are like yours only, some may be good ones but most are worse.

Feel happy they didnt come to help you with health issues, having negative ppl and energy around when you are not well drains you even more.

Buying tkts for parents visit and sightseeing is children's responsibility, and you would be doing it for your understanding and supportive DH's parents.So disregards to your in-laws insensitivity towards you and your health issues in past, treat them right/make their stay joyful when they are there for the sake of your DH. Always be supportive and understanding wife to him. They will go in few months, but your hubby will remember your effort for life and always be good to you as he has been so far.

 

Dear OP,

You are reliving the past experience. Its all in your mind. Your PIL were not upto your expectation. But, the ball is in your court now. It all depends on how you respond this time.

You are married for two years. You will have much more interactions with your PIL in future.Take this as an oppurtunity, to mend your relation with your PIL.

Do your best from your side, love from your side will touch them for sure. PIL might also realize how amazing thier DIL is. Even in worst case, if your love is not reciprocated by them, you will still be proud of yourself for playing your part with pure intention. This will boost your self-esteem and happiness level.

Peace

 

As many have said, through all your ill-health and disability, your husband has taken so much care of you. Count your blessings. Be happy that he at least considers you worth the trouble. Many husbands don't think their wife is worth anything. In everybody's lives there is something or someone who causes anguish, in your case, it is your in-laws. You have to put up with difficulties and face them and learn how to deal with them. That is life. You cannot help it. At least you are not one of those wives who faces regular physical and mental abuse, neglect from the husband, you have to be happy for that.

 

Your inlaws behaved mean with u and ur parents
They dint even talk when u were in pain and troubles
They infact asked Hubby to give money knowing that he spending money on u.

Now if u let them come ur house they will bring more troubles to u and create a distance between u and ur husband.
So postpone their trip.
Instead of lettin them come and fight with ur hubby everyday u better be harsh and cut throat one day.

U and ur hubby need time to build ur relationship after all ur sickness.

I repent letting my inlaws come thinking same that i cant stop son and parents meet. But it was huge mistake, ask hubby to go to parents if u are in US and have no visa issues.
Thats the best thing to do than bear them for months.

 

OP, don't worry, if ur bonding n love is strong, no third party including in -laws can break ur marriage or hurt u....so welcome ur in laws n try to mend ur relationship ..