Regarding A Match.posting It Here As This Forum Is Most Active

Looking at the msgs, it looks like he is uncomfortable talking abt his divorce. Bcoz both ur msg n ur friend's msg focuses on that n he's avoiding it. Wanting to avoid a bad memory may seem rude even wen they r not. The guy n his family has such good rapport with so many ppl. So they should atleast be half as decent even from a negative perspective. If u stil hav ur doubts, but ur family wants to proceed, make sure d wedding date is fixed after a minimum of 6 months. Mean while use all d time in between to meet him n get to know him urself. N then decide if he is rite for u.
Key point here being: meet d person n talk n spend some time (atleast a few months) n den decide. For all u know, U may like him n him, u. Good luck!

 

Hello sir,
I have got your Id from matrimonial. Please let us know if you have got the divorce papers.

Do you think the above makes pleasant reading....

 

Hi ,as @digezt said do U sound good.. the way u have asked u got the same reply back ..
It's no harm to meet the boy talk to him freely.. all issues some with anger some love some work so give him a chance which will also be a chance for u..

 

@nolife just imagine if it was him asking you out of the blue about the details of your divorce. Once bitten twice shy applies apt. You would also react the same way. I would do the same i suppose.

And certain details are personal and i would not talk with a friend or classmate who catches up with me later and is more inquisitive about my ex..

When he comes higly recommended maybe you should check out if it feels the same after talking to him. Maybe start fresh!!

All the best.

 

Honestly, I found your message and your friend's messages to this guy, to be rude. Clearly this is a sensitive subject, so I can't imagine anyone who would be sweet and kind in response. At least he was professional, and conveyed that you should contact his family for that type of details, if you are interested.

Since he has a good family background and people to vouch for him, I don't see any harm in meeting him and getting to know him. You never know if it will work out, unless you give him a chance. Good Luck!

P.S. I would actually be more concerned about someone ready to share their divorce details to a prospective alliance.

 

It will be a gross mistake to judge a person how rude or otherwise he is , from just a chat history

 

If you think the guy is a good match in all other aspects and if your family think so , you should consider meeting him in person. Please don't judge based on mails or chats as that can be deceiving. It is always better to meet and talk to a person without any prejudices. See how it is going. Anyway inquire well before taking a decision.

 

Uh oh! Your message, as well as your friend's chat, both sound extremely intrusive. His response is courteous, IMHO.

Pause and think about it. If a random stranger were to message you and ask about your divorce, how would you react?

Remember that while you are judging him, you are also being judged. It is just as important to make a good impression as it is to make sure he meets your criteria.

What next? He doesn't want to hear directly from you. Either have your parents contact his, or move on.

Good luck, @nolife.

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