How To Live Without Speaking With Husband

Gayathrivikkram · Mar 15, 2017

DDream said: ↑

Dear OP,
You said you hate your husband, that itself indicate you still love.or are emotionally attached to your dh.. when we really detach from a person there will be nothing.. just neutral attitude...

Silent treatment or hatred will eventually punish you. It create stress and affect your mind ,body and health.. so relax... try to emotionally detach your mind from Dh and focus on yourself. I agree with @fourthaugust on the need to shift your attention to you.
We need to be smart.. don't worry about things we cannot change, instead change our response to that situations or ourselves
If you can, try to talk minimum things related your home kids etc and act as nothing happened. Be gentle, nice and give respect as much as you can ..but walk away or not respond to bad behaviour. In the mean time, shift your focus to you.
Creating a world for yourself will divert you from negative feelings. Even going though this forum, social media etc can be a diversion. Everyday try to spend at least half an hour by doing something that makes you happy.. like listening to songs, dance to a song, watch comedy, watch movies, read books, gardening, or cooking or anything that makes you happy. If you like do yoga and meditate every day. Try going to sleep happy and with a peaceful mind

You need to fall in love with you, dress well, care you well, eat well, gift yourself, etc...
Take care of you, your home, your kids, your job and don't expect anything from anyone..slowly I am sure... your will get peace of mind and happiness.... try...

Your question was on silent treatment. I have done that many times .. but It was lIke punishing myself... why should I punish me for someone else fault? So I learned that talking to each other at least about kids, home common things... and shifting my focus to me helped to regain peace of mind. I think when my Dh found that I don't care about his tantrums and am happy with myself, he started to come back to me.

The kids are very smart, they understand well when you two are in silent mode. It may affect them. So try to maintain peace of home and at least maintain some communication with your husband ... you only can make you happy.
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Thanks.. I'll get diverted and have min communication

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