Missed Opportunities

Hi Amma.

1) I dont know why her DH asked u to drop the job for a more needy candidates....may be the situation & criteria s were different in those days for a woman to work.

2) I am sure you would have become a good Entrepreneur with Cem business

3) In regard to Jewellery shop....Mov u really missed it ma...with this sky rocketing gold prices cha cha whchha opportunity....but kudos to u even after knowing its a Gold Showroom u never succumbed to any pressure or desires.

Firstly , you would have scale the heights in any department with your hard working & calm nature & there is no doubt about it.

Secondly, i dont want to get judgemental because those days were very different wrt mindset, priorities, social set up, family priorities.

Thirdly, you have done a tremendous job of bringing up your Kids & nurturing them with strong values & you have dedicated all your aim / time for the benefit of family {may be to uphold the family name / status}.

Now did u miss u those 3 opportunities? may be or may not be....but you have achieved many things more important that those 3 in your own pace & style .

 

Amma: That Gold showroom job still available ah? I am ready with my bags

 

Periamma,
You did what you could under the situation. Many of us, especially of my mother's generation were brought up to listen to elders and male relatives. My mother was also not allowed to go for job despite being well-educated because her in-laws thought it was beneath the family status. She wanted to be a teacher. And they did not want her to apply for a bank job giving the same reason that a more needy person would be deprived.
You have done an excellent job raising your family. If another opportunity presents you can confidently go for it now.

 

Nice write up mmaa on missed opportunities.

All of us mostly when we think back, would definitely feel that we have missed a few opportunities.

When we just tie the knot (male) or take the knot (female), there would pass by a handsome/beautiful man/woman, can we feel for it??? No mmaa there is no end to what could have been done better.

These experiences give an insight to reduce missing the opportunities that would come by and taking a better decision. That's my take mmaa.

 

Dear @periamma - What a lovely snippet ! Even though there is this feel of mild sadness in your words, I find no anger in them. Instead you have clearly gone through those events that took place many years ago and patiently put them to words , not judging or blaming anybody involved in your unfortunate 'missing of opportunities'. As maggi and malstrom put , it was not that you weren't 'solid enough' to take life decisions, it is just that you are a person who has this rare quality of thinking from others' shoes. As the societal view in those days about women empowerment was very different than it is now, your family members and well wishers also advised you or gave an impression of not taking up an entrepreneurship role. If it was a different time period , I am sure they would have been more supporting towards you taking up a successful working women role. After knowing you here (from your sensible writings) for an year and a half, I am sure, with your overall knowledge and approach to people and situation, you would have been a happy and successful person on both home front and also in work. May be not only you missed the opportunities ,those opportunities also missed a person like you ! I am glad that I got to know you . Cheer Up, periamma ! Even now you can do anything you like, health permits.

 

Dear Periamma
I am not surprised that you are so talented but I am surprised that someone like you had missed taking up wonderful opportunities especially being a woman entrepreneur decades back. Our social setup was like that back then. What went by is gone. No point in feeling for that. You did best what you could in your given state. Now also its not too late. If you find another opportunity grab it on the first sight (GG solra sight illa ithu).

Take care