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Gave Emotional Speech, Head Was Shaking, Embarrassed In Front Of 3 Handsome Young Men

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  1. Oct 14, 2016 #1
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    I gave a heartfelt and emotional speech yet my head was shaking due to emotion.

    When I get emotional, I do shake. I would have never realized it, except the anonymous comments said that yes, I am passionate about speech, gave great story, but my head was shaking

    This is super embarrassing because today 3 handsome young men visited the club as guests!

    3 handsome young men

    So I feel kinda embarrassed because they are thinking this girl shakes.

    Please guide me. How to NOT shake my head, etc when I get emotional.
     
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  2. Oct 14, 2016 #2
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    Great job!

    So be it. Its over now, isn't it?

    Do you know these men? Why so much importance to them when you should chin up for doing a good job?

    If it bothers you too much, now that you know, be self-aware the next time.
     
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    Of course I shall be more self aware for next speech.

    I like the speeches to be heartfelt and natural.

    This was first time I saw these young men. I was hoping to get to know one of them in future. Its only natural

    My concern was that the shaking turned them off, i.e. it's a quirk that may keep people away.

    Well, I'll see for next time ...
     
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    Its better they knew your weakness earlier than they know your strength. They will love you for who you are, than what you want them to see.

    Over time, you will know to reduce the emotion and add power to your words, where you need them. As we say in TM, if tears roll when you speak, let them be. Its powerful.

    But if you want to watch yourself, invest in a cheap cam-coder and record your speeches at the meeting. No feedback better than that.
     
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    As a matter of fact the speech was recorded!

    If it wasn't for the comments I wouldn't even notice the subtle shaking!

    But yes, the emotions were real and some people felt it along with me.

    Even when I watch the video of myself I feel those emotions again and again.

    I have been scared of showing my weaknesses in general but I guess it's best to get it out to at the start.

    Usually in my life I see one handsome young man once a while but that day there were three all at once listening to my emotion-fuelled speech!

    I never expected this. Had I known I'd wear a much prettier top and skirt! :kissingclosed::kissingclosed::kissingclosed:

    Perhaps that added to the emotion! Will have to channel the raw emotion into powerful words.
     
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    Op, Give it time and lots of speeches. You will come out of shaking. The more speeches you give , more the confidence you get. You got up and gave a speech is in itself a big feat. Its not easy speaking to an audience much less engaging them all thru it. You did it . Be open to giving more speeches . By next yr you will forget you even did anything in initial ones. Good Luck.
     
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    And I still have to work on eye contact!

    I love to speak .... hope to get over the shyness too.
     
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    Chennaiexpress since you understood the weakness you will find a way to work around it. I suggest you to plan for an emotional speech two months down the line. Talk with your mentor and find a way how shaking can be avoided.

    One suggestion would be to channelise the emotions. Bring out emotions via script, use powerful words.
     
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    Daily why don't you take some topic and try to talk in front of the mirror so that you will be able to find the mistakes you are making and thus correct yourself.. You may also bring in new expressions and actions which may suit your face and body..
     
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    Ooooohhh I like that idea ... Practice in front of mirror!
     
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