Being Pushed To Change From Maiden To Married Name

This investment excuse sounds bogus. What prevents them from doing so under your existing name? Surely there are married women in India who have kept their given names and are able to get PAN cards and such?

 

Don'r change your name if you really don't wanna change it. But if you feel like this is not a battle that you wanna pick up now, and this is not a non-negotiable thing in your life, then go for the change, as it will please almost everyone around you.
Now, changing a name is a big process. Since you are too confused about this, you may ask your H's suggestions and help in this regard.
Don't force this job on him, but get him involved and lead in this process. Which will give you some direction, and less headache during the process.

As for the investment thing of your PILs, I really don't get what they really mean here. Because they can invest on your maiden name very well. So, don't give up for such silly ideas.

I was asked to change my name by both my H and in laws upon marriage, since my maiden name/surname is something very Christian. So, they didn't like it at the first place.
But I really liked my name, and that was part of my identity.
My office e -mail and so many other accounts starts with that. Even at my office they call me Ms..... (surname) and that's how I've become popular among many.
Further, I did not like my H's surname. In fact, he doesn't have a proper surname, but his dad's first name was his surname. Which was too old fashioned honestly. So, I did not like to change it that way.
I didn't see a point to change my surname to my H's first name either. Although it looked matching and fashionable.

So, I refused outright and told them that no name changes in any official documents.
But I changed my name to my H's first name in social media immediately after marriage... Slowly, I've come back to my original name. I don't see a point in changing the name.

 

I assume your in laws can make investments in the new name without changing it. Just tell them to add your marriage certificate to pan card. I did that in bank. I wanted my passport in my married name for some visa issues so as to get that I went to SBI showed them my marriage certificate and changed my name on passbook. SBI latest passbook is considered as a proof of address and identity. So once that was done I could get the passport. But my other documents like pan card, educational certificates are still with my maiden name. My FIL (such a nice man) he suggested and I follow - he told me after changing my name you can still use your maiden signature so for all important signatures I still use my maiden name signature