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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Lxcxxz, May 30, 2016.

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  1. Jun 1, 2016 #21
    Lxcxxz

    Lxcxxz Senior IL'ite

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    Will step in quickly here - mentioned by job because of the hours, not earnings. As a CFO I usually out-earn most people I know; so what? I still respect my husband's opinion and support him (and expect the same in return even though he has a masters and I don't). As I mentioned the problem isn't him it's my mil.

    I took on some of the suggestions recently. Husband doesn't want me to hire a cleaner, said he is happy to do the housework when I'm not around. The Gujarati cook is not an option as I live in a non-Indian area 75 miles from London. MIL refused to teach me (she said I should know already) so I have (after discussion with my hubby) decided to cook what I know & he will do the same. I cook most Gujarati food but in the Kenyan style which is less sweet and more spicy & I'll keep doing it. If mil doesn't like it she can make her own.

    We never had any complaints about my cooking or our housekeeping before she came along & I refuse to let her comments get me down.

    Thanks for your advice everyone.
     
    Lxcxxz, Jun 1, 2016
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  2. Jun 1, 2016 #22
    anahita5

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    ATTA GIRL.. keep going.. let it slide, let it slide, let it slide..
     
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    SunPa

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    Great that you have the support of your husband. That is 90% problem solved.

    I refuse to let her comments get me down.
    Love that spirit... dont give her the power to affect you. :thumbsup:
     
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  4. Jun 1, 2016 #24
    livingitup

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    I would recommend that you revisit the "various reasons", make the husband man speak...
     
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    dia3

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    @justanothergirl -
    See i m not the one to paint a rosy picture or tell people what they want to hear...i believe in telling facts or what holds true most of the times....if someone wants to dream, they r free to DREAM ON !
    n yes, in most cases, one making more money has a bigger say ! N i know this is not romantic ( oops dreams shattered ..) but this is Practical ! TAKE IT EASY !
     
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