How To Convince In-laws For Getting Back To Job

In the UK there is a real developmental difference between kids who go to daycare and those who don't. My neices and nephews attended daycare from 1 years old and are more socialised, elequent, and have developed far better table manners, and educationally developed, than the kids who started school at the state min age of four.

The comparison between my three year old nephew annd similarly aged children (3-5) on my husband's side in India (most of whom are left to their own devices at home) is acute. When I brought him to India he was the only child able to talk to adults, to eat by himself, to share and articulate his needs. These are necessary life skills that daycare really develops.

 

OP (and to some other posters) while you are well within your rights to restart your career and thus put your child in daycare to facilitate your being able to work, but that by no means justifies anyone deriding those toddlers or infants who are not sent to daycare at such an early age because their parents don't feel/have the need to do so. There are divergent views on this worldwide, and many don't concur with the fact that any extra development of a 1-2 yr old happens in daycare over staying at home.
On the flip side, there are enough studies that indicate the negatives of sending infants/toddlers less than 2.5 to 3 yrs to daycares because kids under 3 are not yet physiologically (immunity) or psychologically developed to handle the stress of any imposed structured environment or interaction.
Development comes from the parents and family environment to begin with. There are plenty of very well behaved, smart and social toddlers who weren't sent to any day cares and then there are numerous badly behaved little brats who are enrolled in daycares. There are many factors that go into the conditioning of a 2-3 yr old's behavior & development, and most of these stem from home itself.

 

What is your husbands take on this ? Is he supportive of you going back to work ?

 

Hi Happymom, Congratulations on a happy child, and on giving up your job for your child albeit on promptings from in laws. It is a difficult choice. One that I too made when I had a child. I had problems with daycare because my daughter did not want me to leave her anywhere. We had problems when she started school too as she was very attached to me. I would sit outside the class and listen to her howl. It is better for children to spend time with other children of their ages and learn to make friends. It is an important part of growing up. Check on the daycare facilities available, and speak to the parents whose kids go there, that will give you an idea of what is good for you. Some also have cctv facility which you can log into on your smartphone or laptop and keep an eye on your child. Many options, think about them and discuss them with your husband calmly and tell him that you need his support.