Helpless parent

I am absolutely shocked and horrified that you would denigrate "Women's Studies" like this - in spite of being of the female persuasion yourself! Have you no solidarity? Shocked, I tell you! :eek
Apologies for the digressions, OP!:hide:

 

@swasal hugs. and it is is ok if you could not reply promptly. comeon yaar there is no grief here. maybe disappointment..this is not something that is so bad. and please as expected shows your disappointment and the way youare looking at it.. now please do not say that in your sons vicinity..

he will. only be there but be firm.

you are welcome..and this year boards papers have not been that good to the kids..too lengthy and is a hazard for a dyslexic kid.

 

as i mentioned earlier, there is so much that is now possible apart from engineering, if only we would stop thinking engineering is the only route for big money or status or competiting with some relative or friend..

There is a integrated b.ed with pure sciences integrated bsc/msc. and an institute for that many of us may not be aware of that too. a wonderful boon for a kid who is passionate about becoming a teacher..regional institute of educations rie, for example rie mysore..
Physics

oh let me stop here do not want to hijack this thread..

 

OP,

'better control of the children'? What is this? What are you doing? This phrase itself reveals that there is no change in your (ie parent's) mindset or approach towards your kid. Why are you and your husband so hung up on controlling your kid? Dont you understand that your unnecessary and excessive controlling is what has contributed to creating this situation in the first place? You wouldnt let him be with his friends ( a perfectly normal desire), you wont send him anywhere, even to relax and be with his friends. You kept denying his simple appropriate requests and desires so he concluded that there is no point even talking to you ppl and did what he wanted and started hiding and lying.

OP, please understand that when a kid hides stuff and lies about things it is because he doesnt feel his parents will understand, because the parents are too strict and controlling and have unrealiastic expectations. If you really want to get this right, you HAVE to gain his trust and open the channels of communication so he will himself tell you what is going on. If you dont address the past mistakes made by you , then history will repeat itself.

A stricter school and even more control of the kid is NOT the answer for your situation.

 

@1sandhya the last response should go into her other thread depressed....most of what you have said here applies there...

i don't have the patience right now..:hide: