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Ideal: you say before engmnt.
Now: be honest, likely she wont mind at all. If she does, u will get to know how shallow she is, and then u can take decision. Likely not an issue at all.

 

well .. it may be trivial if one can see the big picture ... but nevertheless it hurts...

I faced a similar situation in my marriage and figured it out myself later (a very trivial matter) ... it did hurt me and till today it hurts (I am married for 13 years now)

Now reading this, on a hindsight I feel I would have taken it better if my DH had revealed it himself

Do not delay telling her... I doubt it will now break the engagement or any such..


Longer term... its important for both of you to be as open as possible with each other... Trust is the foundation of marriage..

Each couple is unique and their chemistry, needs & wants from the relationship is unique.. appreciate this basic principle...

why can't my wife do somethinge when my mom could do the same happily... notdonesmileynotdonesmiley
you are entering a danger zone here... just watch out...

two reasons

1) you future wife is a unique, independed "individual"
2) Your mom being a mom will not reveal how "pissed off" she was with your dad for those millions of trivial things... that's her business with her husband..

all nice, well meaning people around you... appreciate their thoughts and help ... but its just about time I think you start having your own "principles" (I am referring here specifically to the way you deal with your married life and not any other aspect of "principle")

I think your girl would like it better if you say "I lied because I liked / loved you to the core at first sight" and stand your ground there than add anyone else's views / justification...don't even go near good heart and stuff...

Sorry for the rant... when I started writing I did not expect to end up writing such a long post...

Good luck with your confession...do not worry.. things will fall in place and my advance wishes for a blissful married life

 

s be honest n say now to her she wont mind because many of them have this problem. k then u can make u'r grey hair into black for long time only using henna mixed with fenigreek seeds, hybiscous soak then in thriphala juice for 3hrs.


thriphala juice soak thriphala whole in water for 4hrs.

use dis henna paste for once in 3 r 4days fist one months after that use weekly once .

gradually it will reduce.

 

Now, that was a poor decision.

That is such a subtle way of arm-twisting the girl. She must surely wonder what else you are hiding now, and you will need to build trust all over again.

This is the most terrible statement in your entire post.

This is the endearing part which you should have led with in the first place. A girl who is not shallow would have seen and appreciated this if your were honest in the first place.

Then why would you ever expect your fiancee to behave like your mother??

1. Be honest now. As soon as possible. If she breaks the engagement, because of this one reason, then take it like a man. You can brand her shallow, and move on.

2. While talking to her, NEVER mention your mom's reaction. Or, "cousin told me to hide it". Or, "should look beyond such trivial things".
She is her own person, and can react the exact way she wants to.

3. And really, grey hair is not a deal breaker, atleast for me. So go ahead and tell her.

Wish you all the best. Hopefully we will be wishing you for your wedding soon.

 

Tell her. Show tamil actor Ajith's or George Clooney's pictures and joke that 5 years from now, this is what you would look like. Don't get all serious and tell her as if you are guilty for hiding something. Throw some humor in it.

 

To be honest, no girl with a little bit of maturity will break up an engagement because of a little white hair. My DH was partially bald before marriage and I had no issues.
Be matter-of-fact, be frank about it. You committed a small mistake, not a crime. She will understand. Best of Luck

 

I don't think coloring hair is hiding the truth or lying, since everybody does stuff to look good. If coloring hair is hiding the truth, so is wearing makeup in my opinion. I think you should go ahead and send the girl your selfie. If she is even slightly mature, she will overlook the grey hair.

Also, now is the time for you to take precautions to prevent further greying, rather than blaming it on hereditary factors. Consult with an ayurvedic doctor and use ayurvedic oil regularly.

Good luck with your future and wishing you a happy married life!

 

Hi,
Some times it is better to tell the truth to ur fiancée so that the problem ends there itself.There are so many beautiful girls in the world. Further Beauty is skin deep only.
However as u got married. pl tell her the fact. You have to face the reaction not with anger or revenge but softly.She may not take it seriously at all.
There are so many remedies for grey hair. or you may dye ur hair by selecting proper dye as health is more important than colour of hair. Wish u all the Best! As u are young don't waste ur valuable time in petty things like this.there is so much to achieve in Life. venlax
" the woods are lovely ,Dark & Deep, but I have promises to Keep, & miles to go before I sleep"