Who Eats First at Home?

Why complicate so much... If you are tired, then it means tired. Tired is a more clear word in English than any other supportive words. If you say, I am weak, I need rest, I am hungry etc..etc... to indicate tired, then chances are very low that your H and in laws misunderstand what you really say.

Anyone can get tired. We women are not exceptional. Why fake extra energy and be a superwoman at home?
Well, if you are really concerned about your family; thus careful at what you'll do, then obviously you work more to ensure everything is done perfectly.

But, if you are sure that your H can share part of your workload, and MIL is around in the name of helping, then why fuss? Just ask, that too be explicit with the tone of little diplomacy.
It works. At least it is working in my case.

 

Exactly how I feel when my in-laws are here.

 

oh dear
it is the same here, every time
and here it is me who cooks and even then she never asks me if i have eaten
i get up early, make kunch for DH & kids & in laws, breakfast for all & get the kids ready for the daycvare and school -in short rush through everything, make sure all eat breakfast in the morning & it is me who is left out-i rush out without even a cup of tea & the lady never bothers?
it is the same scenraio at evening, no matter how tired i am when i get bcak, i have to go first thing int he kitchen, make tea & snacks for all of them
now i just dont care, years of exeprinec have taught me that you first hav to care for yourself , only then can you take care of household
so now i eat wahtever i want to, anytime
good for me that the MIL never bothers to look into the kitchen
she cant even make a cup of tea, my FIL does that when i am in office( i knnow - kids tell me everything)
even when i go to in laws place, i make usre that me & kids are well fed.
the son is always looked after by his mother & we cant wait for her to change

 

There has to be open communication between husband and wife to start with. If the husband can see that his wife is hungry and tells her to sit with him and eat. It does not matter if you are in America or Sudan, respect between all members of the family is mandatory.

 

haha must say, I had a really nice time reading replies in this post...

every DIL who goes through this MIL phase, feels she is the only one in the world having this pain...its not about how your MIL treats you, its how you take it...

truth is, you'll live and feel much happier and peaceful, when you learn to see the positives and ignore the negatives...when you realise how lucky you are, to have someone make food ready for you when u reach home after work...when you realise how lucky you are, to have an educated husband who understands you when you communicate...when you realise the ultimate truth that DIL will always be DIL and son will always be son for an MIL and thats just how it is and theres nothing wrong in it...when you stop expecting your MIL to care even 10% of what your MOM does...when you realise there are people on this planet going thru much worse situations...when you realise some or all of the above, you'll start "letting go" ur MIL's words/actions and focus your energy on something useful...

 

i feel the same when MIL or ILs here .

 

Hi same happend with me you cant change them so ignore as they are your guest.

 

May be... but eat fr ur health