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A different type on in-laws problem

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by simpleGuy, Aug 23, 2015.

  1. dimhere

    dimhere Gold IL'ite

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    You have your plate full already: New baby, wife needs care, running the house and work. So dont spend any mental energy thinking about these people.

    List of things to be done (in THIS order only):
    1. Find a daycare/ nanny for your baby, so your wife can get back to work on schedule. Buying ghee/ almonds/ gifts regularly may actually cost you more than a good daycare.


    2. Stop buying ingredients from the Indian store. The next time, tell them there was no ghee in the store. What happens then?

    3. Hug your wife, and tell her she was right in the first place. She DIDN't need her parents around. You both are managing just fine by yourselves.

    4. Advance your IL's return tickets if possible. If not possible without creating a problem, then the same advice that we give DIL's here: Ignore, ignore again, fix a neutral expression on your face, and start a countdown here until the days they leave.
    :)

    Oh, completely forgot in all this rubbish.. Congratulations to you and your wife, first time parents, for just being awesome!
     
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  2. Anamika99

    Anamika99 Gold IL'ite

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    COngratulations on baby.

    This is inhumane,

    1. Talk to your wife. and just send them back sooner. Even if creates issue. I hate to say but take advantage of Indian culture... u r 'ladkewale' and u rule...
    2. Hire doula ....they help with house and baby
     
  3. Luckystar

    Luckystar New IL'ite

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    So sorry there are so many crazy people in the world. This is just a holiday to them . You are a good husband . Continue to support your wife and get rid of them ASAP.
     
  4. ivlakshmi

    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    My grand parents were one of such kind. Work like dogs at sons house and keep scolding daughter and behave abnormally.
    Ask them to leave your house. Just lie to them that your relatives are coming over and he cannot keep both so you advanced the tickets and send them back immediately. Looks like they are just enjoying. Sick people. Take this as a lesson and do not call them.
     
  5. Iamagoodgirl

    Iamagoodgirl Platinum IL'ite

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    Op you need to send them back.Its disgusting that hey eat halwa hiding in bedroom and dont cook anything for pregnant daugher.
     
  6. CrayoNess

    CrayoNess Platinum IL'ite

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    Kind of strange to expect that elderly parents would take care of a much younger and healthy couple with a baby. It should be the other way around that the younger generation take care of the older one.
     
  7. VKumaraswamy

    VKumaraswamy Senior IL'ite

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    Sorry about your in laws being difficult. Can't understand such behaviour towards one's own child. I really hope you can get suitable childcare soon. On the plus side -I am not being being flippant, but the lack of ghee for your wife is better for her health- parents who insist on their daughters eating ghee and sweets after delivering a baby are helping them get overweight
     
  8. MaliniHari

    MaliniHari Gold IL'ite

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    please send them back ASAP. I am shocked to see a behavoir like this. Of course they are old. but that does not justify the behavior here.
     
  9. surekhap

    surekhap Platinum IL'ite

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    @simpleGuy hi very happy to see a husband keeping all the information about his wife and cares for her.
    and coming to inlaws you can convince them that you both can take care of the little one and immediately send them to their place.
    as you said u help the family in cooking keep a maid for the rest of the work and your dear wife will be totally in the attendance of the little one. you can take advices from your mother in phone for ur help.
     

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