The sex - who is initiating it more?

Well.. the source can be cited as "Primary Research"within friend circle

But yeah.. women are more open about sex, experimentation and letting the partner know what she wants:cool2:

 

(Putting this into parenthesis as only indian couples' views are to be discussed. I would say that there is an age factor. In the beginning of the relationship the male is more eager, as time go by the woman is the one asking. It has probably to do with the fact that the sex drive for men is at its peak when they are 20, for women when they around 40. Of course then again in the golden years maybe the men are again in the drivers seat?)

 

Some learning there.

 

I think it used to be men at least during the initial phase as women may feel a bit of shyness or uncomfortable to ask for it. But as time passes, both will become so comfortable with each other. Thus it is not gonna be a question as to who initiates. Anyone can.

Again, it is related to their age. As @CrayoNess mentioned, women's sex drive will get its' peek time when she is nearing her 40s. May be that is when she is finally settled in her marriage from the in laws issues, pregnancy, maternity, newborns, career issues etc..etc.... As they say, women always view sex not just as physical thing, but also as a mental thing. So the balance comes when the couple grow old together.

 

Old times..I have no idea..i think they had more sex than us, because in most homes sex was the only free entertainment....before the cable TV took over our free time. I am not sure who would have initiated more though..

Current time...recently one of my gf was asking me to help her pick out a kinky outfit for her hubby and we went shopping together scavenging all adult stores in my city ...I think we are getting more open with experimentation..and breaking all the negative stereotypes associated with sex. I know a quite a few of my friends who were in a live-in before marriage and premarital sex is accepted among lot of people in the young indian community in US. I have been to few bachelorette party of my close friends..where we almost stripped the girl naked...and made her give a bj to a banana ...this is a close group of around 16 girls...we have a super conservative one in the group..who keeps saying ewwww to everything but she broke the record to having the highest number of times one had sex during the 1st week of marriage...we tease her a lot about it. Now, none of these girls are tamil, but they are indian. I find tamil girls to be a conservative or maybe they just did not have a chance to experiment.

I am not sure if men or women initiate more. It all depends on the drive. But one thing for sure is that with both partners working, we are not having it more often..

 

I think it varies as both partners go through their ages and there is peak and bottom for both the partners. However, most women may end up in playing more supportive role than aggressive role. Men are always "ready", even after arguments, they can switch gears while for us, a lot of stars need to align to really be in the "dominant" role.

Not sure what you mean by initiating - initiating full action or just start with romantic gestures and then the spouse takes over?