Parents want me to get married - what is the right age for marriage?

Right age is when YOU are ready to take the leap. I am not so sure about "societal" pressures any more because frankly speaking I doubt anyone - especially the so-called "society" has the time or the inclination to give a damn about anyone else's welfare or otherwise. In any case even if they did, they are not going to lead your life for you. You will have to live in the marriage and face all the challenges on a day to day basis. So take your time. Let your parents look out if they want to; you don't have to agree till you are convinced you have found the right person.

 

who is the right person?? that is the million dollar question!

 

I guess every one is left with that question all one's life (except a fortunate handful). OK, let me put it this way :-D "when the ghanti goes off inside your head" :rotfl

 

24-25 is the right age to get married, IMO...let me list the pros and cons: of getting married at this age:

PROS:
1. You have chances of getting guys less than the age of 30, considering 3-5 yrs age difference.. as you get older say 28 u may get guys who are nearing the age of 35...
2. You are at that age when you can still look young and pretty...you can have your pick of men and afford to be atleast a little choosy about the appearance of the guys whom you want to meet for alliances...women start looking older and put on weight once they reach their late twenties (Not all, but most of them). And you can look good in ur marriage album ..
3. At the age of 25 you probably have atleast 2-3 yrs of working exp., which means you are fairly settled in your career ...
4. It is easier for women to make adjustments when they are young...As we get older we become more set in our ways...
5. You and hubby can enjoy for 2-3 yrs..laze around, get settled financially , get to know each other, go for frequent vacations etc.. and then start TTC and have kids...(if you are interested in having kids right away it's ur wish and it's a lot easier to have kids during mid twenties than late twenties..)...If you get married at the age of 28, the parents, relatives and in-laws will start pushing you to have kids immediately, which may not be your liking as all women need a little time to adjust to married life before attempting motherhood...
6. You can comfortably have ur first kid before the age of 30 and recover...
7. You and DH will have plenty of time to understand each other before kids...any pending personal issues can be resolved before TTC...
8. If you keep delaying marriage, then some time or the other you may feel depressed seeing all your friends and batchmates getting married and settling down...you may feel left out...
9. No pesky relatives/neighborhood aunties gossiping about you and your single status and bothering ur parents by asking unnecessary questions...

CONS:
1. You may feel overwhelmed that you have made such a big commitment..
2. Too many responsibilities - getting up early, household responsibilities..responsibilities towards in-laws...but face it, you have to shoulder responsibilities at some point of life...
3. You cannot be carefree and cannot do whatever you want all the time...and you are answerable to others such as DH, in laws..
4. If you are interested in pursuing higher studies, very difficult to do so post-marriage...

Please think about the pros and cons and then decide...And yes, irrespective of all reasons given above, get married ONLY if he's the right person for you , and from good family...

 

Isn't this a old thread ???

 

Yup.. Was wondering if OP is married now?!

 

Ideally there is no right or wrong age but definitely teen age is not ideal many reasons for that but let's not get not that..

Benefits of getting married younger..

1) options r more..

2) after marriage ,u can enjoy for few years and then think about kid

3) even if u get married around 24, and then u try for a kid around 28 and come to know there is some probes with conceiving u have time to work on that.if u get married after 30, and then their is a problem it is so taxing physically and mentally.sorry to sound negative but being practical as there r lots of ttc problems these days..

4) younger having kids..better.u have energy to raise them..


5)personally when one gets married younger,they look cuter and they r more romantic.older people r more mature and practical.just a thought..

so many one can say.

my pointers may be very outdated but just some opinions and being practical.

however,each to their own.

u need to decide what is very important to u..