What happended to me..

Its a good start that you have atleast 'recognized' that there needs to be a change.

Women start 'feeling' old the moment they are married - so dont worry, 25 years is pretty pretty young.
1) enroll in a group exercise class - the reason i ask you to enroll is that if the class is not scheduled , you will end up moving it for something else. Tell your hubby that you need this 1 hour for your health. It can be zumba/aerobics/pilates/yoga. ANYTHING that you like. If its a group class, you will enjoy it.

2) Do you have any particular interests? Stiching/drawing/dancing. Start to look at it 'profesionally' . Take online courses to perfect this. The happiness it gives you will increase your self confidence and the way you look.

3) Spend time playing with your kid and husband. Go out to a park regularly. Spend some time outdoors

4) Plan monthly vacations. It could be a one day trip or a 4 day trip. But you be the planner.If your hubby is not interested, you make a detailed plan and convince him. Its the USA, you can be on a budget and yet visit a lot of places. Explore new places .

5) Most importantly, do not compare yourself with others. Facebook is a place where people only post good things about themselves. Obviously someone is not going to put a pic of them and their hubby fighting or them having a hard time. But does that mean that everyone is happy all the time ? Use FB only as a means to being in touch with your friends . Avoid any feelings of 'oh she has a better life than me'.

 

Go and hit the Gym. Go for a facial. Go for evening walks with your kid. Keep your self active. And you are still 25, at this age, women look young enough, so dont think that you already became old.

Its all how we look ourselves in the mirror. Its in our mind. Try to adpot an active lifestyle and include some fruits/whole sprouts, lots of green leafy veggies in your diet.

 

Once we get married and have a baby, we women tend to forget ourselves. You have certainly identified your problems. Now, it is easy to fix.

Make a goal for yourself. Like in these many months you would like to lose these many pounds and work towards your goal.

Be active - Join a gym class. If that is not possible download some exercising apps on the phone - like 7-minute training, and take up walking or jogging.

Change your diet - Make a journal of what you eat, how much you eat, how can you cut calories.

Make over - Take care of your skin - go to a parlor, get facial, eyebrows, waxing. stay hydrated. Get a nice haircut. May be get some highlights.

Stick to this and trust me in 2-3 months you will start getting results.

IL has a lot of weight management groups that you can join.

 

Start with feeling "Young".You need to take care of three things to look young

1. Weight..When you put on weight you automatically tend to look old. hence focus on weight reduction. Dont go on crash diets..Gradually plan to lose by half kilo a week...Dont STOp eating food....rather eat right food.

2. Skin-Another important factor is not having a healthy skin..A healthy shiny skin make you look young and glowing...So start working on your skin as well...Most of the skin enhancing ingriedents are right there in your kitchen. You do not need to goto BP's for this..In IL there is a separate thread for home made face packs..Check out that..Apart from face pack, drink 3L water everyday, eat one fruit/veggie everyday. Avoid deep fried foods..

3. hair- The more your hair recedes/falls the more early you start looking old..hence take proper care for your hair..

Chalk out a plan for the next month on the goals you need to reach...taking baby steps towards reaching the goal is much better than not taking any steps..

Remember this too shall pass..

Soon you can start looking like a "Yummy Mummy"

 

Sometimes I feel the same way. I live in a foreign country. I feel my friends in India who are my age look better, fitter and more relaxed than I am. I feel especially after kids we women in foreign country have to do so much that there is hardly any time for workout, face packs and having a relaxed life. Here there are no parents to look after kids, no maids to do housework. Does anyone feel the same way?

 

Yes you are absolutely right tryinghard2013 I feel same way u feel.

 

I was so fitness conscious before I had kids. Early morning workouts, gym, taking care of my skin etc. Earlier I could just get out of the house and concentrate on what I want to do. After my kids, I haven't had the time to lose the Tummy fat. My skin has acne marks and blemishes and seldom do I even get the time
to wash it let alone apply face packs. This being the case when my husband is absolutely supportive and helping. But the housework, baby food, our food, kitchen clean up, laundry and watching the kids running into stuff takes my whole day. And I don't even work full time. And when I see the pictures of my friends on Facebook, I see them
enjoying parties, looking slim with beautiful skin. That makes
me feel that there are pros and cons to every place you live in. In India one gets so much help and in a foreign country, there seems to be no time to look after yourself.

 

All time i feel the same with a husband of no help except cropping in groceries.For anything and everything my son approaches me. earlier he was a role model for every neighbor but now when i'm really in need of his hands in household stuff's,he is nowhere.So what i do now is give plenty time for myself as soon as he leaves for office, from browsing to nurturing myself. I also wish if i can do any other extra activities, but he is so egoistic not allowing me saying 'you are behind money'. but the fact is i love to be with people, doing something in group. Living inside the room, it sucks....Even cleaning,cooking, washing and looking after DS has become out of interest to me. Coming over here was my biggest mistake. As everyone say staying in home country could have atleast given us something back. Career,life,health everything gone upside down.