Is it a crime to have an only child?

Rakhi I think I will stop after this ....I am completely irrational when it comes to babies Please take everything I say with a sack of salt.


There are no gaurantees Rakhi ...but if I didnt have a second child my son wouldnt even have a chance right? So far knock on wood :bonkits workin out ..even when they all (DH included) do a fine job of driving me up the wall every once in a while.
Please please dont feel guilty ....I am sure u are making the right decision for ur family.
There is always more than one way and more than one solution to a problem.

 

I don't think its a crime to just have one child. I think it makes sense emotionally and financially, depending on your individual situation.

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Rakhii.. sure i do see your points..

i think in the case of your DH, it is because, he has a sister, sometimes when it is a brother and a sister, the love and affection is not the same as it was when they were young... because priorities change after marriage... atleast from people i have been seeing..

but if it is a girl-girl, sisters relationship, i have seen that they are like friends for life.. but i will not agree on the same between brother-brother relationship because i have seen both sides.. some like rama and lakshmana, and some like opposites.....

in my case i sincerely wished for a sibling when i was young and even now because, am somewhere far away and not there immediately when parents need me..but if we have siblings, the responsibility is shared and we can also be at peace thinking that somebody is there to take care when we are not able to..

but i really don't expect my kids to be so responsibile like us to parents, given the age and society they are in, but atleast they will be there for each other...

but it is not at all a crime to have one child. it depends on the family situation and the parents

 

Rakhii even my sis is sometimes jealous of me doing well than her. We also have fights. Once we had a fight over some matter don't remember the reasons -we did not talk to each other for 1.5yrs
I am a full time working woman, yes would b really a challenge to have one more baby but as I am very clear and not decided under any pressure, m sure will handle this situation also quite efficiently.
The main thing here is be firm on wht your heart says. If you think practically, you will compromise and will feel guilty. Think a 1000 times before taking decision but Once decided then don't regret on your decision

 

Selfish????
I dont think so...what if in the future both the kids end up having bitter sibling rivalry???
We cant predict life...

I have stopped listening to others.
Yes I understand the pros and cons of having a single child.But i have shut myself away from the constant guilt trips....it gives me some peace.

 

Am I glad for this post.The worst part was when they used to ask my dear two year old to come and ask me for a brother or sister. Obviously he used to get angry when i used to say no !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:bonk

 

I usually say "we are one and we have one". Here we = me and my DH.

 

Hi

This question is asked by all people who have two kids. First of all, Now we have take our kids. In future each kid take care of his/her life partner. But he/she need one supportive person after our death. For this, his/her own blood only correct. So only all ask about next kid.
But it is good for first kid, if he/she have siblings.

 

Let people say what ever they want. IF you are someone have two girls, then will start, " so are u planning for a boy".or vice versa. If you say I want only one child " they start advising"???

So ignore and say, its our decision. Tats all...