Wedding Gifts

Kamalji · Jan 9, 2015

Dear Still waters,

Well if i speak of old topics of my days, my days will be over here, with u all packing up and going to other writers.HAHA. And what can i do, when great articles keep coming.

just oday i posted a blog on the diapers of policmen in duty in philipines, just came today in the papers. blogs follow me i dont follow them.HAHA

Tamasha is the right word. Cheating eh! How shameful that so many envelopes came out empty, and now u dont know who gave what eh , and how can u ask the empty envelope fellow also how much he gave. very embarassing and a loss too.Dont turst relatives eh ! what to say , one loses trust in human beings and relations.

Regards

kamal

stillwaters said: ↑

Dear kamalji , i like the way you pick on current problems always , something like current affairs .
I sometimes feel our big fat indian weddings have become great indian tamashas - both from the hosts and guests sides .
When the guests walk over to the podium and proudly present their gifts meant to show their wealth , there are some who cannot keep up and are forced to cheat like handing over empty boxes or envelopes.
A very shameful incident happened in my cousin's marriage. My uncle is a very well known and helpful person . So they received a lot of cash and gold and silver articles as wedding gifts . Some near relatives were put in charge of them . But we don't know how but majority of the envelopes and boxes were found to be open and gift items removed. They incurred a loss of lakhs of rupees and again the same problem about how much to give as the return gifts when the time comes .
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Kamalji · Jan 9, 2015

Dear Madhu,

you read me well eh ! So u knew i would blog on this one.HAHA

So u had the max photos clicked at the stage, receiving envelopes.Wow.Not a bad idea.

and u commenting on the dresses of ladies ? A lady teacher of my daughter, was a teacher in a boys school previously, so i once asked her, her expierences.She said, boys are better to teach, for the girls are catty, they will remark, maam has repeated this dress, this is not matching etc. whereas the boys are nice, they just dont seem to notice what u wear when.HAHA

i talk of family weddings, rather weddings in the family. what i receive , then i have to keep a list of what to give to whom.

Really a pain, which will end soon i suppose with the wedding of my last daughter this year. phir finish all this give and take and we will be free froam,all this.

moksha , as the pandits will say.HAHA

Regards

kamal

madhuprabha said: ↑

Good morning Kamalji,

I had read this article in TOI and was eagerly waiting for your thoughts on it. I thoroughly enjoyed reading your post as well as all the FBs.

My perception about receiving gifts is changing with age.

Before I got married, we cousins used to vie with each other to receive the gifts at the family wedding. Becoz, we could stand next to the bride and the groom and get our photos clicked. Why deck up, if u cannot be noticed. hahahaha!!!

Another advantage is that, from that vantage point on the podium u can see everyone and comment on their dresses. When a person is decked up in all finery, even their mannerism changes.

Now coming to actual part about receiving or giving gifts, I feel it is a good gesture. As long as we don't judge the person by the value of the gifts, then it is a enjoyable experience.

Now that I am always over looked for standing on the podium part, I can roam around the whole place and see everyone at close quarters.

Return gifts have always been in vogue in India. becoz, any time somebody comes to our house esp. ladies, it is a tradition to give them kumkum and a blouse piece or fruits.

From the time I have started working, it has always been that we have pooled in our resources to buy a gift for any official wedding. And we usually just give the cash.

Hence the question of returning the same amount does not arise in our office.
Family wedding, well the less said the better. Becoz u r always judged by ur gifts nothing can satisfy some people in the family.

As usual all ur jokes were rocking Sir.
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stillwaters · Jan 9, 2015

Kamalji , i don't know about your side but whenever i go to india for holidays it's very common to hear tales of family members and relatives stealing cash and jewellery while attending functions .
Who should you trust now ?

steve · Jan 9, 2015

Kamalji:

As usual a nice read. You made me a regular to your posts!

curiousgals78 · Jan 12, 2015

Kamalji,
another awesome one. sorry i was new here and your other blog has got me going looking for more of yours.

Malathijagan · Jan 14, 2015

This was a very good post of yours Kamalji. I too feel it is a burden to receive gifts and then keep account of them and remember who gave what. Nowadays, when the boy or girl stay abroad, they leave all the gifts they received at their parents place and disposing them off is another burden. The best thing that can gifted these days is the blessings.I do hope people change for the better and see some sense.
Regards
Malathi