fertility questions by strangers???? why??

Hi anika...I totally feel your anger here. Strangers why infact even relatives, have no right to ask you such questions. When people ask me that question (which has happened directly and indirectly), my response to them is just this...don't you have any sensible question to ask? If they persist, my response has been atleast I aint into cradle snatching or child marriage like you...as most of them I know got themselves and their kids married really early in life and had kids before their first anniversary!. Most people back off with the first response, but there are some painful relatives who just don't get the message and only something nasty gets to their thick skins. Initially I did use this method, but over the months, think I just turn a deaf ear to them...selective hearing ignore and move on...ignorant souls don't deserve your attention or response.

 

Couldn't agree more with wini... just turn a deaf ear and seize to react.
Few people just don't realise where to draw the line. Few days back I had to face this stupid lady who is my dh's cousin. She, inspite of knowing I had multiple miscarriages and ttc, asked me innocently "no news yet? Are you guys using something to prevent pregnancy? " I was first shocked as I couldn't see this coming up... I just smiled and ignored as if I was thinking something else. Few relatives too were present in the same room... she repeated the question second time... I acted as if I was playing with my mobile... she said... Twinkel, am talking to you, and repeated the question 3rd time and this was enough to shoot up my bp. I smiled, and asked her, when was the last time you had sex? She was taken aback, there was a silence in whole room... I said, "hey @@@ , I am talking to you... when was the last time you had sex?" No reply... I shrugged and continued playing candy crush ;-)

 

now that was some reply :cool2:

 

Yes, she deserved it. :rant

 

Thank you:thumbsup

 

Love your reply twinkel.. I too face such situation where relatives have no other hot topic to discuss than my pregnancy .. Hell lot of advices about various medical treatment and what not.. As if we don't know anything..and these relatives we hardly meet every other day... I normally smile and reply 'very soon, with yours blessings'

 

An unamused 'Why do you ask?' usually silences pesky inquiries.