Brother in law and Sister in law

Hi Friends,


It is about my brother in law(BIL) and sister in law(SIL), they always speak lies , they have complaining nature etc it is quite frustrating and can't say anything
because of there fighting nature. Friends please help your views and ideas and how do u deal with this situation.


To explain in detail we are in abroad and they are in India doing a good job,my father in law and mother in law stayed with them for a couple of times might be around 4 years, but they say they stayed with them for 8 years. We cannot argue because of there nature but I get lot of angry inside me because of there lies.


Also we have arranged two servants and they take care of A to z, but now my father in law is no more, Still we left two servants with them and they take care of everything for my mother in law except in situations to take to hospital once in 6 months or when my father in law is there once in a month or so.
Even taking to hospital they say lies that they were taking every day or every
alternative day.

Even though the servants do everything from A to Z and they help a lot for there house cleaning, washing , cooking etc, SIL hardly has any work, she is always out for there personal work, she is housewife, she is not working as it is her own decision not to work and to care of her children, but they say that they are not
working because of the in laws but that is not true as they(both) don't even spend 10 min for the in laws by sitting & talking with them. SIL on a daily basis does her personal, taking care of her children and little bit of cooking (her husband is particular in cooking), most of cooking is done by servants on the whole what I am trying to say is that this servants do A to Z and they have also utilized them heavily when they have purchased new house for all the house carpenter work etc, even after the servants have done so much they never expressed even a single day about the servants hard work and they compliant that they eat more, but they always say that they(BIL& SIL) are doing all the work, all the time they say this, also they indirectly said that they wont look after in laws if money is not sent of course we never had such a idea of not sending( as u can't understand about cunning people attitude), both are very cunning and has bad ideas and also always increases the monthly charges every 3months or 6months saying that the prices have increased or some cock & bull story. One time he as increased the monthly charges to much we told that it might not be that much it, in reply to that he wrote a long mail to my husband saying that u look after parents u will know the pain , he asked what amount we have given saying himself that he only spent all money as if we not
given, in spite we have given equal amounts for the operations, medical tests etc,
He also has insurance for inlaws which his company pays, he should have claimed it and also take from us but never used to say and blah blah everything is untruth.
As we are here and couldn't bring in laws because of some reasons, we have to leave them with BIL but for his parents only he counts & he says that why me everybody has to take responsibility and one time we kept 2 and half months leave to look after inlaws and we were withut job with loss of pay, but this people are only bothered about them not about anyone.

They are very cunning and cheating type.When my father in law expired during that 11 days period this people have done things for his new house like arranging with new flower pots, arranging decorations etc,. You can imagine now how this guy is and practical even during his father's death.

This guy has 16yrs of job, because of some issues in the company he was said that his company has issued resignation letter, he has good assets, properties and policies and this guy doesn't even spend 10/- he thinks so much. even after having so much he complains saying that everyday has has lot of expenses for children he says don't know how to run the house, blah, blah etc For children will they have everyday expenses? and we advised that SIL can do a job , he said that it is not possible because she has to look after mother in law and servants even that is not true everything is lies but the truth is she is not working because she wants to look after her children and her personal work, even they go out regular that also they say lies saying that they are not able to go out because of parents.
There is lot to say but want to give a fully stop, I really get lot of frustration can't say anything because of my husband and relation ship and also because of the cunning nature.
What do you do in this situation. Please kindly let me know.


Sorry for my communication and spelling mistakes.


thanks sunispirit